[bubblesbubbles]

Anyway i have met this guy a month ago. After the first day i met him, he just ask for my number and always texts me even at night time we talk for 6 hours straight on the phone. At first we were so close, he tells me everything and me too also we become sex buddies. At that time i started to have feelings for him and the third day after i known him i went out to meet up with him. He kissed me,hold my hands and he even brought me to see his family and said to his family am his girlfriend. He never brought any girls home to see his family before…at first i thought he just want me to pretend to be his girlfriend so i can go to his house but that day cos his grandparents needs to go back to Canada so ended up we have to help them carry stuff and went to airport. That time we were all sweet and it feels like we are real couples! the feeling hes giving me is real too. Even when there is only me and him on the bus he still kissed me and hold me tight. And send me cute goodnight text that night but we didnt have sex that day. But after that night he has to work 2 days straight so i couldnt talk to him for 2 days. After those 2 days he started to get so quiet..like start texting me less…then completely ignored me for a full week. Then a week after he started talking to me again and we hang out for the third time and this time he is all different again being hot and cold to me! so i tried to be just normal friends with him and he suddenly told me am like a little sister to him. Also cause my ex boyfriend cheated on me like a month ago and i just cant get things cleared out with him and he kept on posting blogs to hurt my feelings. So this guy i liked help me so much stuck up for me even they both argued so badly and nearly fight! After that my feelings for him is like crazy..when he called me a sister it just kills me 100 times inside so i decided to send him a text saying “hmm i feel so fucked up whenever yu called me little sister cos i like yuu and i dont want to be brothers and sisters so i think is better just called me bev.” and he replied “hmm…i got a feeling yuu prob like me but i honestly think of yuu like a sister to me someone to hang out etc if yuu think its better then yeah i’ll call yu bev” Right now there is a girl posted on his facebook saying ” i miss yu i dont want yu to go back if yu have time then come over and stay for abit” and he replied ” yeah if i have time i’ll come over <3 ” but me and my friend agreed that girl account was fake! now i honestly dont know what to do…i know is crazy how i can like a guy so quick but am sure the feeling i got for him is real! please help me!

1) Is there a chance between me and him ?
2) what should i do next time i see him ?

Thank yu for yur help! =]

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s a mistake to become “sex buddies” or to have sex too soon in a relationship because it clouds your judgment. Men and women have sex for different reasons and sex changes things in a relationship. Women use sex to leverage feelings — which is what you’re doing. Men have sex because they can. You’ve only known this guy for a month and instead of getting to know him, you’re pressuring him to be more committed than he wants to be.

The best way to get a guy to like you is to give him something to chase after — and if he does chase you, then you know he’s interested. If he doesn’t, well, he’s not.

In answer to your questions, yes, there is a chance he likes you, but you should NOT chase him, contact him or sleep with him outside of dating. If you want to be his girlfriend, you have to act like a girlfriend. His calling you his little sister is a way of his distancing himself from you — men don’t have romantic feelings for their sisters, so when he says that you’re like a sister, it’s his way of telling you he’s not as interested in you romantically as he used to be. This “sister” title is shorthand for “things are cooling down.”

Try and not act or react – wait and see if he takes you out on a date. If he doesn’t, you’ll know he’s not Mr. Right. And if he does, give him something to chase after. 😀

I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[bubblesbubbles]

What yu mean by giving him something to chase after? He already knew i liked him! >_<

[bubblesbubbles]

so what should i do to attract him back? i dont get what yu mean by giving him something to chase! ><

[April Masini, your AskApril]

One of the basic rules of dating is to understand what men want. Men love to chase women, pursue them and capture them. This chase and capture makes them feel like they’ve won a coveted prize. No guy wants the girl who’s so easy anyone can get her — because that just tells him and his friends that this woman is no prize.

If you make it hard for a guy to get you he’s going to feel accomplished about himself — and about you — when he does. You can read more about this in the book I wrote for women called Think & Date Like A Man. You can buy it on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or right here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

[claire***]

This guy is playing games with you………. he was after you, and I’m sure you knew that. Whether this account is fake is irrelevant. Always trust your instinct and I know that sometimes you want to believe that its not true. You’re obviously a lovely girl if he took you home to meet his folks, but the fact he is being off is a total passion killer. Don’t fight or even try to find out….. just move one. I have no doubt there is a better person out there for you. If you’re really close as friends then obviously don’t cut contact but if you feel he is very sporadic in his contact then he is just using you for his ego……. I know its hard but you need to let go of this one!!!

Chin up 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[b]claire***[/b] said it best when she wrote:

[quote]…. just move one. I have no doubt there is a better person out there for you.[/quote]

😀

[bubblesbubbles]

Claire***
do yu honestly think that he doesnt worth it? i know this going to sound silly but right now i really like him and its so hard to pull myself away from him! it hurts…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[b]***claire[/b] is probably reacting to your guy’s statement:

[quote]and he replied “hmm…i got a feeling yuu prob like me but i honestly think of yuu like a sister to me someone to hang out etc[/quote]

When a man tells you he’s not that into you, and his behavior backs it up, it’s best to pay attention! You’re not lost — you’re just disappointed. My advice is that if you want a guy to make you his girlfriend, then you have to act like a girlfriend — not a sex buddy. 😳

Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[bubblesbubbles]

it will be hard to act like a girlfriend around him since me and him hang out with differrnt groups of friends and also i already told him i liked him! D; am worried he will start avoiding me! >_<;; well we would hang out once a month or something but we’ll have awkward silence between me and him

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you keep doing what you’re doing, nothing will change and you’ll continue to feel lost. 😳 It’s up to you to change your behavior. I know it’s difficult, but if you want a new outcome, try a new behavior! 😉

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