[amandaemm]

Hi april,
I have recently met this new guy and 1st time we met we really were atrracted to one other. I was in a relationship at the time and i did tell him that. However it did not work out and i finished it, we started spending loads of time together only as friends in a group of other friends and we were texting and having loads of flirting fun. We went out one night on our own and shared a few kisses things then went from there and we started seeing each other but it was nothing serious we were having a laugh and spending alot of time together. I still had not slept with him and i did tell him i have respect for myself i will not sleep with and one i am not in a reationship with or if i dont have any feelings for them. About a week later he asked me out when he was drunk and i told him to wait till the next morning and ask me when he was not drunk he did and we started going out. I slept with him not long after this and from then things have just been diffent. we havent spent as much time together and one night about 2 weeks after i slept with him he told me that things were to serious for him that he would like if we went back to seeing each other. i asked him if he was going to be dating other people and he told me that is not what he wants. It is hurting me so much because i cant bring myself to sleep with him again as i think but he doesnt really want me if he did he would want to be with me properly. i only see him twice a week now and he always says he misses me and i love you if he missed me would he not want to see me more ?? a ask him this but hes yet to give me a proper answer he just says yes we will start seeing each other more because i cant do this … what do i do april??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

What you do is up to you, but I can tell you for sure that you can’t make him be who he isn’t. I know you want him to be someone who treats you “properly”, but he’s showing you clearly he isn’t that guy. As long as you keep trying to change him, you’re going to be unhappy.

It’s best to accept who he is and understand he’s not your Mr. Right.

I’m sorry because it isn’t what you wanted to hear, but I think you’ll be a lot happier if you look for a man who is and does what you want a guy to do. This guy may be right for someone else, but not for you.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me on Twitter @AskAprilcom (no dot!) and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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