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Me and my boyfriend were in long distance relationship since 3 years. I am 29 and he is 26 and have 2.5 years of age difference. We were committed to each other and met only once when he was at her town place. the meeting was very nice we had discussion of our future.
Later on all was going well. He tried to convince his family but they are against due to age differences and now he is saying it’s not going to work as his family is not agreed and he is weak to face such situations and all.However, he committed that he will marry me and convince his parents.
When he told me this on whatsapp..He knew that I am upset and he tried to call but i didn’t pick and then I went on NC. I didn’t wish him on his birthday(tried calling but he was busy) and now he is ignoring me and showing that nothing had happened posting updates on Facebook…
I am feeling like he betrayed and broken completely. I didn’t say anything to him after that day but messaged him again after 1 month and asked hows he and all but the conversation was only 5-6 lines and he didn’t even tried to call me..My concern is whenever I asked him that he loves me he said yes but at the same time he is saying that this won’t work and all..I asked him once about the commitment but he said what we can do about this? I haven’t signed any paper..that made me angry and I stopped talking..
Do I need to contact him at least to tell that whatever he did was wrong?
Please suggest.

[AskApril Masini]

It sounds like you’ve been in a long distance relationship for three years, but only had one date in real life. 😕 Now, you’re upset that he won’t commit to marry you.

Since you’re 29 years old and want to get married, my advice is to stop wasting time and focus on your goal. 😉 If you meet a guy on the internet, and don’t have an in person date within[i] three months[/i] of meeting online, move on. Don’t waste your time. You should also play the field because dating is a numbers game. There are going to be men and dates that don’t work out simply because you’re not compatible. The sooner you figure this out, the less time you waste. Focus on your goal and don’t try to turn someone who isn’t available for marriage into someone who is. 😉

You might want to buy and read [b]Think & Date Like A Man[/b], the book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right. Here’s the link: [url]https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0595374662/ref=lpr_g_1/102-2178981-9624908?s=ebooks&v=glance&n=551440[/url]. 🙂

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He had committed but the issue is with his family is not agree about this. And all of a sudden he is telling me that his family is not agree. If this was the thing then he would have told me 3 years back…

[AskApril Masini]

I know you want him to be committed to you, but he’s not. And he no longer wants to be. 🙁 You can make excuses for his behavior, by blaming his family, but the bottom line is that he’s an adult, and he isn’t moving forward with you. He may have known this for a long time, but is just telling you now. I know you’re very disappointed, but it’s better if you don’t fool yourself by trying not to face the facts.

One of the problems with long distance relationships over the course of several years, like yours, is that you only get to know certain facets of a person. When you date in real life, meet his friends, his family members, see where he works, how he spends his weekends, you learn an enormous amount that you can’t possibly know from being an internet girlfriend. That’s why I recommend that if you meet a man online, and he doesn’t take you on a date in real life, within three months of meeting, to move on. Now, it’s been three years, and you’ve only had a single date, and you’re very disappointed because what you expected is not happening.

I know you’re distraught, but you need to accept the reality that this is not going to result in a marriage. He’s not coming around. 🙁

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can I have your email so that I can inbox my problem? Or is there any way I can communicate with you?

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If you’d like to pay for one on one coaching, you can email [email protected]. 😀 This forum, however, is free.

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