[Vinita]

I started talking to this guy on a dating app. I was hesitant to share my no in the beginning but he pursued and shown interest so I shared my no.

We have been talking since then. We also met sometimes. Initially it was only him who msgd or call but then I also started but it lessened but[b] he always picks up the call or calls back if he misses. [/b]We have talked a lot in last few days.
This weekend he went out with his friends and we couldnt meet, so we thought that we will meet the day before.

[b]Our conversation[/b]
Him: I am trying to come but it seems to be a little difficult. What if I dont come?
Me: It will be fine. If you are not able to come then its ok
Him: Why are you reacting like this?
Me: I m not reacting. I m not upset or angry. i m fine
Him: Ok, Good you are happy with it.
Me: Well, I am not happy but I dont want you to come if your heart isnt in it.
Him: laughs. Ok I will come to meet you. :):)

He dropped me home after the movie. I asked for a hug which he gave. When I said thanks for coming, he said No need I wanted to come thats why I came.
When I called him that I am going to sleep now, he said can you wait for 15 mins. He finished his packing and called me. We talked for few mins and then We said good night.
We had a small call in the early morning and he said he will call when he gets the network.
When it was impossible for me to wait for him to call. I called him but he didnt pick up or called back till now
I so wanna talk to him but dont wanna call again
I dont know if he is really interested or just pretending. Why hasnt he called back?

[AskApril Masini]

You’re coming on a little too strong. 😕 Guys like it when they are the ones who pursue you, but when you do the chasing, it can come off as desperate. 😳 If he tells you he’s going to call you, then wait and let him be the one to call you. Just because you want to talk to him, doesn’t mean you should. You’ve only been dating about a month, so you have to understand that he’s probably dating other people as well. The first three months of dating are simply to get to know each other and find out if you want to continue dating each other — if you come across as needy, he may not find the relationship he has with you to be what he wants. Play hard to get. I know it sounds old fashioned, but it works.

Also, when he asks you how you’ll feel if he can’t see you, and you tell him that it’s fine, you’re letting him know that you don’t care that much about him. I know you probably didn’t intend that to be the message he got, but he was hurt and lashed out. It might have been better if you’d told him you would be disappointed if you couldn’t see him — that would make him feel valuable and wanted. What’s happening is you’re telling him you don’t care if he shows up and then you’re calling him too much — it’s a very mixed message for him. Think about what you say and how you behave, and how he will interpret it. Lots of people miscommunicate because even though they had no intention of sending a particular message, the person receiving the message gets a completely different picture of the relationship.

I hope that helps!

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