[isabella33]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months , he is usually open to me…Today i called him and we talked ..then he told me the stories that he went to Brunei last week…He told me that he saw a girl ..and have long hair ,blue eyes …he said she is really pretty then he said he wants to talk with her …but that day he couldnt because the girl went ready before he could meet her..another day he saw that same girl, but again he could not talk because she went by car again .. Then the next day , he saw the girl on bus stop … he wants to talk wit her But in brunei you must get in a car and wave before you can talk with someone ..so he got a car but before he wave ,one of his friend told him that she is a prostitute…then he told that night he couldn’t sleep because he can’t imagine how a pretty girl can do such thing like that . I asked him why he wants to talk with her at the first place…he told me he just wants to make a international friends. But im still worried thinking about it.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I can understand why you’re worried. The guy you’ve been dating for four months met an interesting woman in Brunei and you feel the competition, which isn’t very comfortable. I think you’ve got to realize that there is competition, and you’ve only been dating for four months, so he’s letting you know he’s interested in playing the field. This is actually good information for you because you can decide to compete with her to win him over, or you can decide that you’re not interested in continuing to date him. But staying in the relationship, knowing he’s interested in other women, and not doing anything about it, is going to make you crazy.

Dial up your dating A game, and be the girlfriend who will win him over, not the one who tells him who he can and cannot see. Make him want only you, and you won’t have to worry about anyone else.

[isabella33]

Thank you a lot for the advice … Now I’m feeling better .Yesterday I played a prank on him just to know what his reactions when I say like that ..I told him that lets end this and we shouldn’t be together … I said that we aren’t compatible for each other .. He asks me why and he keep asking the reason I said like that .. He got really angry and just stay quiet .. But I know he’s angry and he said al his fate .After that I told him it’s just a prank and he told me that he got really angry with me and scared because I said like that . He never talks about that girl again so I didn’t talk to him about it anymore ..I just forget about it after talking with him .

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know if you have any other questions.

[isabella33]

Hello ,
I am (17/f) and my boyfriend is 17 too . We r only in relationship for 4 months but I know him about 9 months . I was just friends with him first. Recently I found out something about him . I actually opened a different Fb account to know how he chat with other girls and whether he will tell the truth or not . But the way he chat really made me disappointed . First actually I chat like normal using that account , Then I asked him he is single or taken . He told that he is single . I continued to chat with him .

Then he asked me if I’m using WhatsApp or insta . I told him no . Then he asked how’s my parents ..how’s life going on and all that . He asked me the same question that I asked .. He asked if I’m single or taken ..I told him I’m taken and he asked who is the lucky guy . After that I asked “u single uh y Not see anyone?” He replied trying for all girls but doesn’t work out with him. Then he asked about my birthdate and hobbies . Then he asked “Ur classmate girls all good looking is it?”I asked him why . He told me “Coz u know i’m looking for my angels…Hahaha” he also asked if I have any interesting friends and If ur friends are single…Pls do tell me…(he said like that) . He sent me a quote about love and said he is not lucky to send to his gf..I told him don’t worry soon he will get one .he said thanks and asked me to help him . He asked again that is there any pretty girls in my school . That’s all we chat on that account

After that I used my WhatsApp to chat wit him (my real one) . .we had a small fight yesterday night and I put down the phone . So he was kinda mad at me Bcoz of that and when I approach him on chat .. He said he is busy and asked me to do my work . I said “What else u must be doing ” And I told him “U must be chatting with some other girls or insta-ing ” .he just laugh and said bye coz he gotta go out but still I continued chatting with him . Then he said one thing that” he talk to many girls as a Friend but he put me in a different that I’m his future Wife ” he also said that I shouldn’t think if chat with other girls doesn’t mean i don’t like you . He said Ur always mine . Then actually I told him about that Fb account . The account that I used to chat with him I told that is is my fren .. At first I said do u know her ? He said yeah she is my Fb fren .

I told him that I’m the one asked her to add you and he said yeah now I get you and he told me that do I believe that chatting . He said I am crazy Bcoz trusting that conversation . He said he talk like that just for fun ..And he said he just wanna test her find who is she actually . He told that this one I shouldn’t take serious and asked me to chill but I really cant . He said “u have never seen me chatting with one of my Friend ” I know her and her name is deva. He said if I know means I will get heart Attack . He told me that he chat to girls like that and he said if I don’t like that way he will stop and he also said that I am always his Wife . He said “sorry I never expect this will hurt you” .

But the thing is that I still don’t know how to believe what he said is true 🙁 … Really it hurted me a lot ..I took it serious but I don’t think he is serious when talking about this … He asked me decide whether I want him or not .. But I can’t forget him easily just like that ..🙁 I don’t know I should walk away or trust him .

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Walk away.

[isabella33]

That means I shouldn’t trust him anymore ? But why he gives me explanations ?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]That means I shouldn’t trust him anymore ? [/quote]

Correct.

[quote]But why he gives me explanations ?[/quote]

Because he wants to keep you in the game.

[isabella33]

I talked with him about this … He told me he need one week time to decide

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good luck! 🙂

[Sally]

Anyone would feel weird hearing their boyfriend talk in detail about another girl, especially saying how pretty she was and how badly he wanted to talk to her.
The part that matters isn’t whether she was a prostitute or not. The part that matters is why he felt the need to tell you this story at all. When you’re in a relationship, there’s a line between being honest and being careless with your partner’s feelings. Talking about wanting to approach another woman, replaying it, and saying it kept him up at night crosses into uncomfortable territory.

That doesn’t automatically mean he’s cheating or planning to. It does mean he may not realize how his words affect you, or he may be testing boundaries without meaning to.

You don’t need to accuse him. Just tell him calmly that hearing those details made you feel insecure and hurt. See how he responds. A caring partner will listen and adjust. If he brushes it off or keeps doing things like this, that tells you something too.

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