First of all, he’s been very clear with you — even though you don’t like who he is anymore, and you’re trying to change him. This is a big mistake women make — you’re not alone! 😉 He is committed to his parents and his lifestyle, and he’s chosen them over you. The best thing you can do is to respect his decision, and not try to manipulate him into being someone he isn’t. I hope you want a man who knows what he wants in life and is his own person. Either this ex-boyfriend is that, and you don’t like who he is and want to change him, or he isn’t that person, and can be manipulated by others — and that’s not a winning character trait for a boyfriend. In fact, if the latter IS who he is, you’re in for a lifetime of misery because he will blow whichever way the wind is strongest — and believe it or not, that isn’t always going to be you!
Second of all, you should not talk to his parents. He’s a 22 year old man who is making his own decisions. If you start treating him like a kid, and telling his parents what he really needs, you’ve already lost. And, if you berate them for their part in his decision, you can guarantee yourself that he’ll cut off from you with ill will. He loves his parents and respects them, and there’s no win in it for you to confront them.
Rejection is hard to take because it hurts, and it means you chose the wrong guy. BUT…. I like to think of it as a gift that points you in the right direction. 🙂 Why knock on doors that are locked and won’t open? Instead, let go and move on. You’ll be a LOT happier with a man who wants you and with whom you have life goals in common. Learn from the choices that didn’t work out, and do better in your next relationship as a result. 😀 😀
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