[hbansal24x7]

I broke up with my ex in December (based on the premise that there would be no future for us and hence we should part since it will become worse in future). But in end of february i tried to get her back as i loved her and couldn’t stop myself talking to her.So i relapsed. After a couple of days talk she told me that a guy asked her out and she said yes to him and NOW they (my ex and that guy) are dating. I got furious and poured my heart out in front of her. After a couple of days she ditched the other guy and we got together.

But few days later i got a call from her number and the other guy was saying all kind of bullshit to me. I went to see my girlfriend and got to know that they were actually dating since January and infact they were dating till that time when i again started talking to her in February (So that other guy was coming back to her again and again and he was furious on her too and thats why he called me from her number as he wanted to spoil things for her).

My girlfriend apologized to me and said that i am the only one she wants to be with and that other guy was just to get over me (I behaved in a carefree and mean way to her before we broke up back in December, although i was loyal the whole time).

Somehow we got back together but that incident still hurts me deep in my heart and i cannot push myself to start trusting her again and i am torn within myself. Should i forgive her and try not to think about that incident or should i break up with her?

P.S. – She is now putting much efforts to gain my trust back and is loyal to me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[hbansal24x7]

I am 24[M] and she is 22[F]

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The problem isn’t this guy. The problem is that you’re trying to create a commitment that she might not be ready for, or that she just might not want. You have competition and the reality is that commitments don’t erase competition. It’s out there. The best way to hedge against it is to win her over and make sure the person you’re winning over wants what you want.

You have her for now, but relationships can be tough because there are two people involved! Sometimes one person wants one thing, but it conflicts with what the other person wants. You’re both young, and you have options, so don’t forget that. 😉 But also, don’t forget that she’s got the same choices you do. People stay together because they both want to, but if she’s looking outside the relationship for someone else, you can either compete or move on — you’re not married and you’re both free to play the field if you think you should.

I hope that helps. 😉

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