[Jolly Anne]

Hi, I’m Jolly.
One day, completely out of nowhere, my boyfriend confessed that he had done something wrong. He seemed nervous and guilty when he told me about it.
According to him, he attended a party without me. He said that he got extremely drunk that night and eventually fell asleep at a table. When he woke up, there was a woman lying next to him. He told me that he was so intoxicated that he could no longer remember what happened after he fell asleep and because of that, he could not explain how the woman ended up beside him.
Hearing this completely broke my heart. I was shocked, hurt and confused. Part of me wants to believe that he is telling the truth and that whatever happened was not intentional. I keep thinking that maybe he really had no control over the situation and that he may not have knowingly done anything wrong.
At the same time, I can’t ignore the fact that he allowed himself to get that drunk in the first place. Even if he doesn’t remember what happened, the situation would never have happened if he had not become so intoxicated that he lost awareness of his surroundings.
Now I find myself torn between trusting the person I love and questioning the choices that led to this situation. I don’t know whether I should focus on the possibility that he may be innocent or on the fact that his actions put him in a position where something like this could happen.
Should I forgive my boyfriend after what happened at the party, or am I ignoring a serious red flag?

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