You should NOT pursue your ex. I NEVER recommend that women pursue men. If your ex is interested in you, he’ll ask you out on a date. If he’s not, he won’t. I don’t think you should contact him any more because the feelings you have are going to distract you from the fact that he isn’t asking you out any more. 🙁 I know this is hard to hear, but regardless of the reasons for your break up, he did break up with you and he hasn’t asked you out since.
As for your best friend, his proposal “out of the blue” two months ago was putting the horse ahead of the cart. Just because you’ve been friends for eight years doesn’t mean he’s Mr. Right. It means he’s Mr. Comfortable after a break up with a boyfriend. You’ve only been dating him since the proposal — this is WAY too soon to consider marriage. And the fact that you’re thinking about an “either or” situation (either your ex or your current boyfriend) means you’re really limiting yourself unnecessarily.
My advice is that you play the field right now. Clearly, you have reservations about marrying your best friend turned recent boyfriend/fiance. In fact, by pursuing your ex you’ve made it clear you’re looking for other options. The only problem is that you’re looking in the wrong place. You need to look outward for a man who is Mr. Right who you haven’t met yet.
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