First of all, congratulations! You’re smart to ask for advice now. I think the most important thing is to keep your eye on the ball. Make sure you both understand what this means to you and to each other. For instance, if you see this as a step towards marriage and he sees this as an end unto itself, you could be in for a bumpy ride. So have a plan in place — at least in your mind and at best between the two of you.
Being clear on finances is important, too. It doesn’t matter who pays what as long as you both have the same expectations. This can become a problem whether you’re married, lovers, friends or roommates with someone you’re living with.
Privacy is also important. Just because you’re living together doesn’t mean you both don’t need your privacy. Be respectful of your time together AND your time apart. Understand what you each need in terms of privacy. Sometimes living together can become claustrophobic if you’ve been symbiotic during your dating relationship, and wanting a “girl’s night out” can make him feel rejected, when all you were trying to do was take care of yourself to be a better partner.
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