Emotions and feelings are wonderful, but they change and fade and blossom and go through all kinds of machinations within a relationship, normally. What’s important in long term relationships is compatibility and commitment. So if you can put your feelings aside and look at these two men and figure out with whom you are more compatible and therefore have a better chance of making a long term relationship work, then that’s the man you should be with. 🙂
It’s normal to have feelings for someone outside of your marriage or long term committed relationship, but it doesn’t meant you have to or should act on them. People walk by us all the time and we think they’re sexy or attractive, or we imagine what it would be like to be with them — and that doesn’t mean our marriage or relationship is in trouble. Behavior and respect are what hold relationships together over the long run.
If you’re honestly not ready for a long term committed relationship, and just want to date around, and cater to your feelings, that’s okay, too — as long as you don’t lead your boyfriend/s on to think you are doing otherwise.
So decide if you want one boyfriend or if you want to date a bunch of guys, and then act accordingly.
I hope that helps! 😀
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