[Sally]

It’s hard to get to know a guy when his attention keeps drifting back to your friend even if she’s taken. It just makes you feel like you’re in the middle of something that isn’t yours.

He might not mean anything by it. When people are used to talking every day, they don’t always realize how it looks. But if you’re trying to build something with him, you need space that doesn’t include her voice popping in every five minutes.

You don’t have to make it dramatic. Just slow things down a little and see how he acts when it’s just you. If he keeps pulling her into every moment, that tells you where his comfort sits.
You’re allowed to want a situation that feels clean and simple. And this one doesn’t yet.

[Madelyn]

Your friend and this guy are clearly very close. My advice is that when you’re talking to him, try not to make your friend the topic. If he brings her up, just gently change the subject. Take the lead in the conversation so it stays focused on the two of you.

When you go out, like for coffee, try suggesting that you both put your phones away so you can actually spend quality time talking without distractions. You can even show it by turning off or putting away your phone first—he might follow your lead.

[Member]

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