[Anonymous]

the other night my friend and I were drinking and decided to prank call someone on her phone that she doesn’t talk to anymore. (I know it was immature but we were just having fun) fake name super random silly questions, some innappropriate questions.

anyway this guy kept texting me after, all that night and the next day. I don’t know him but I’ve met him once over a year ago and he’s really attractive. then he asked me out, I thought it was a booty call and told him I wasn’t going to sleep with a random guy. after he explained to me he actually wanted to go out, for dinner or something so I just felt bad.
I called my friend who knows him and she flipped out! She was mad that I was still talking to him, and that I was risking the prank call being traced back to her. I asked her what was so wrong with it-he obviously didn’t mind the call all that much. She told me she used to like him whch I knew but she told me she stopped liking him because it would be weird since she’s good friends with his sister. but now her story is that he sleeps around, he’s dirty, he’s had STDs and he’s always dating this one girl and when he’s not she’s psyhco the type of ex who would try and ruin any new girls life 😕 . When I asked her if she still likes him she just said she has a boyfriend now and hasn’t liked him in years.

So I took my friends advice and told this guy I wasn’t interested in him and didn’t want to talk to him anymore. He didn’t listen and kept talking to me and I actually really like his perserverance, he keeps wanting to meet me. Finally I was just like ‘I have no idea why you keep asking, you don’t even know my name’ then he got confused and I told him about my fake name. He didn’t mind at all and still wants to see me, and now I want to go out with him too.

I don’t want to lose a friend over a guy soI feel as if I should ask my friends permission first though, or at least talk to her about it. I’m not afraid of crazy ex’s (I don’t believe she’s as bad as my friend made her out to seem) so how should I approach my friend?
Also since this would be my first normal functioning relationship, (all my other one’s were friends with benefits turned boyfriend) After how many dates is it acceptible to sleep with him and would it be wrong to ask him to get tested before I do? 😐

-Nikki

[AskApril Masini]

First of all, you’re making too big a deal of this. You do NOT have to ask your friend’s permission to date this guy or any guy. You are a grown woman and you decide who to date on your own without anyone’s permission. If she gives you a hard time about it, then she’s not much of a friend. So let go of that anxiety.

Second of all, you don’t know this guy at all — except for a prank phone call 😆 and a bunch of gossip, so don’t think about sleeping with him just yet. When you tell me that your other boyfriends have all been friends with benefits situations, I know that you have to be very careful about tacitly setting your relationship standards. Slow down and get to know him first. See if he’s someone you even WANT to have a relationship with before you consider having sex with him.

But if he does turn out to be someone you’re really interested in, then you should buy my book, Think & Date Like A Man. Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. I’ve actually written a section on when to sleep with him — and how long is too long to wait. 😮 Buy it. Read it. And tell me how things go. 🙂

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