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Are they talking about me?

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    So I was out with my awesome group of friends last night. I really like one of them, he’s adorable and the biggest sweetheart. All night long we kept giving each other really close hugs, not like short and silly friend hugs but long, back rubbing, caught up in that moment hugs and giving each other flirty looks. We’ll call this friend I adore Bill. One of my other friends, we’ll call him Mike, is like my brother. At one point I was sitting at the bar between them and Mike says, “______, I love you. You’re like my little sister,” to which I replied, “and you’re like my big brother!” Then I look over at Bill, he smiles and puts his arm around me and whispers, “You know I don’t think of you like a sister. I never could.” Then later that night my third guy friend, we’ll call him Tom, and I were sitting outside. Bill comes out and says he’s going to get going because he had to work in the morning. So I give him one last hug and then he and Tom share a hug and Bill says “Sibling rivalry man, we’re always after the same girl.” After he walked away I was telling Tom how I was falling for Bill and how awesome he was. I then asked him who the girl was and to just say that it wasn’t me, so that I wouldn’t get all worked up about Bill knowing it wasn’t possible. But Tom won’t tell me. This made me think, “he knows I like Bill and not him, he doesn’t want to be humiliated or make things awkward.” Every time I’d hug Tom after that he would softly rub my back and it just made me feel like I was the girl they’re talking about. Does it sound like that’s the situation?

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    #15647
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    totally. I was just with them again tonight though at their house, and ‘Tom’ was definitely looking a little awkward. I feel bad because he’s a great guy, and I don’t want to hurt his feelings by having something with one of his best friends. Should I sit down and talk to him or just let things play out? Maybe this thing with “Bill” will never even happen anyway, right?

    #15711
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    Don’t talk to him to try and soften the blow. I know you think you’re doing something nice for him, but you’re not. You’re just alleviating your own guilt, and he’s going to feel worse if you sit down and talk to him. You have to understand that rejection is part of dating and it’s unavoidable and integral to finding Mr. (or Ms.) Right. Without rejection we’d all be with the wrong person because no one would do us THE FAVOR of letting us know we’re on the wrong path.

    Don’t make a big deal out of this. See what happens with the guy who likes you and let the one who is going to be rejected by you lick his wounds (he’s not stupid — he’s figuring this out without your having to explain it to him) and move on to find someone who likes him as much as he likes her!

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