Hi April,
I’ve been dating this girl i met for the last Month and a half and have have been on two dates with her that have gone really well. It’s been a Month since the second date so in that time i’ve been keeping the contact through texts every few days, However about 2 weeks ago i got the impression she was losing interest so i backed off and limited the texting to once/twice a week.
I asked her out for a 3rd date on the Monday just gone and to my surprise she said she would like to go out on another date. But we’ve had to cancel due to her having to be in work.
So here’s where it gets really confusing – Later that day she said “Can i just ask why you want to take me out again?” so i told her why and said i feel we have a lot in common and that shes the only girl i’m interested in etc etc. Then she was like “it’s just cause i don’t really hear from you so i just presumed it was very casual or you’re not very interested, so while I’d like to go out again i don’t know if it can go anywhere when we never talk”
I admitted that the lack of contact was poor from me and that i assumed she had lost interest due to her sometimes randomly not replying half way through a conversation or not replying at all and that my call’s hardly ever go through to her. She then said – “its due to the awful signal in her new flat. While you’re not talking to me a lot someone else is, and while i do like you too, how can you have something with someone you talk so little with”
Anyways moving it along i said to her if she still wanted to go out for that 3rd date as i don’t know where I stand with her, and she said – “Well i would like to but like i said i am seeing someone sort of now, and we talk a lot which is where you didn’t so i presumed you wasn’t interested”. We spoke on the phone after that and she said shes only sort of seeing the person, they haven’t been on a date, the other guys just been texting her the last few weeks.
So i told her i understood were she was coming from and that things like that can change cause i wanna see her again and that i don’t wanna lose her to some guy. knowing she’s sort of seeing someone else and that the lack of contact bothered her, I’ve been speaking to her everyday and it was going pretty well until today where we exchanged a couple of texts and she comes out and says “This feels a bit forced you texting me now, sorry but i can’t help but thinks it’s only cause i said something and i don’t like that. I don’t wanna feel like i forced someone to get in contact! i’d rater much they do it on their own”
I mean what the actual fuck! I can’t win! She says i don’t contact her enough, so when i do she says it’s being forced. I really don’t know what i am meant to do! It really pisses me off she’s sort of seeing some other guy and it’s always in the back of my mind like he’s beating me to her.
I really like the girl and i don’t wanna just give up, especially to some chump who’s come out of nowhere. I didn’t come this far to just give up this easy. I’m sorry, i know this probably comes across as a very long and pointless post but I’m just so lost. I don’t wanna lose this girl.
Anyways thanks for taking the time to read, any advice would be very, very grateful!
Cheers,
Gav!
