[Anonymous]

Okay, there is this guy I like. I have liked him for years. I can’t seem to get over him. I have tried but I don’t know what it is about him. Lately, I have even been dreaming about him. We did go out for a while on and off in short spurts. Mostly, we were just friends the entire time we did hang out which was in a space of about 3 years. We have kept in contact longer than that but we both moved on eventually. For some reason, I think I have some kind of deeper level connection with this person…like we were together in another life time or something but in reality we don’t click whatsoever. I believe that is the main reason we are not together now. But we always chose to be friends. I think part of the reason for that too is because we are both so physically attracted to each other. But, I would want his happiness first even if I couldn’t be with him so I am okay with being friends with him and I believe he would say the same vice versa. Since I moved back to town, I have (as well as he to me) sent a couple of messages to him via FB. I want to be friends with him but am I just fooling myself with this whole friendship thing. Why can’t I get over him? It’s not like he was ever that good for me anyhow and we never really clicked but there was just something about him…that I just can’t get over. I am pretty sure he feels it too. But then again, I don’t think it is in the cards for us which I believe he also sees. At one point or another we both wanted more out of this relationship but we could never make it click (he was too immature, we were both shy, we were young etc). Help.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Men and women can’t be friends. It doesn’t work — at least in most cases. As long as he’s in your life as a “possibility” (albeit a bad one based on your history together and your knowledge of him and yourself), you’re never going to feel alone, and feeling alone is good because if you don’t like it, you’ll want to find Mr. Right. He’s not that guy, but he’s posing as a challenge to your finding Mr. Right.

Let go, don’t FB him any more. Let history be history and find someone who IS Mr. Right.

I know this is hard, but you can do it, and you’ll be happier and healthier when you do.

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