[Anonymous]

Hi all,

I want your honest advice.I met a friend in college four years ago and we kept in contact online for the entire four years.Chat back and forth emails.We are now very good friends, but it was acknowledge that we are very attracted to each other.We have had sexual talks online for years.The issue is we had liked each other but for some reason things did not go that way to a relationship.The past six months i tried being intimate and emotional and was ready for a relationship, and he revealed that he has a gf.He is in another country than i am, and his gf is in another country than him.We met in person again 4monthss ago, he cheated on her with me.Two months ago he moved to her country to study a Master Degree and now lives with her.I love this man but i feel that i need to do the right thing and let things go.

we still talk, just not as much as before, we are very good friends, but im afraid the friendship is preventing me from moving on because we always end up being sexual or emotional with each other.In fact he asked me to help him find out whether his gf might be cheating by doing him a favour.This is what really made me realize that he really cares more about her than he does for me.Do you think i should hold on or let go of both the friendship and a possible future with him.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The friendship you once had has changed — it’s no longer a genuine friendship. You’ve both been honest about your sexual feelings for each other, and you said he cheated on you, so I assume you dated or slept together making the friendship something else entirely. All of these changes mean you can’t go back to being friends.

I think you need to let go and understand that not every relationship is meant to last forever. They don’t come with visible expiration dates, but like bad milk, yours with this guy is no longer fresh.

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[Anonymous]

He cheated on his gf with me, his best of friend.He did not cheat on me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He may have cheated on his girlfriend with you, but he went back to her and let you go. Take the hint and cut off contact with him until you’re over him. You can’t be friends with someone you want romantically, who isn’t interested in you. 😳

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