Thank you for your advice. I really do want to make my marriage last, but I do want to be happy and fulfilled. And yes, I am sure over the years I have become tainted and began pushing him away but when I look at him, now, I just don’t have any feelings for him, I’m at a loss. You are right. I have been neglecting ‘me’ I started doing some things for me this past year. I am getting much happier with me. And, again…you are right. I am lonely in my marriage. I’ve tried telling my husband this for the last year but he just doesn’t seem to understand and in some cases he’s gotten angry with me for telling him how I felt. He says he’s happy and can’t understand why I’m not and that I would just have to find a way to get happy. I was the one who, in the past, tried to keep it going. I set up the dates, the special birthdays and anniversaries, just special ‘I’m thinking of you gifts’ and any other special outings that we did. In the 12 years since we’ve been married, he hasn’t done one thing to set up anything romantic ~ and has never once tried to surprise me. If I wanted romance, I had to get things moving. I’ve even brought this to his attention. All he tells me is that I didn’t marry a romantic and he doesn’t like surprises (and he doesn’t). But, I’ll try once again to see if I can get something out of him and peak my interest as well.
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