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Holding on and not letting go? Are you crazy April?

I don’t even talk to her anymore.

I went over to her house a few days after we went out because I didn’t have her number. I lost it to be honest.

Whats the big deal with that?

The reason I am upset is because of the abuse she is showing me two months later, such as trying to run me off the road and treating my friends (Who have done nothing but be kind to her) like they don’t exist. You got to be kidding me here.

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I also would like to let you know, I’m far from hurt. I’m just confused out of my mind why this woman is still acting like a psycho towards me. Also what kind of woman that are normal, would ignore my friends who did nothing? That makes no sense at all.

Unless you know the answer to why she would be mad at my friends, I guess it always will be a mystery and something we can never figure out about this woman.

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[quote=”April Masini”]I know you’re hurt and angry that she’s not behaving the way you want her to, but this forum is really to help you improve on your situation. 🙂 Lashing out at her and spending all this time and energy on talking about how she’s a bad person isn’t going to help you or your friends. 🙁

Instead, my suggestion is that you learn from the experience. You skipped a lot of steps that might have allowed you to get to know her so you wouldn’t be in this situation. First of all, as I said before, don’t show up at someone’s house after one date, without calling and making sure it’s okay to come by. Not everybody is as neighborly as you are. Some people like their privacy. A lot!

Second, date someone a few times to get to know them before introducing them to your friends. It sounds like you’re angry at her for ignoring your friends, but you’re ignoring your part in this scenario — which is bringing a date you don’t really know very well, into a situation where she’s meeting your friends. Like showing up at her house without calling, you assumed she’d be okay with it because you are. Now you have this experience to learn from and use for future. Getting to know who she is, and what kind of character she has BEFORE you involve other people like family and friends will allow you to avoid this situation next time. 😉

Having sex on the first date can be risky because you don’t know each other. Sometimes guys just want to have sex, but clearly, you wanted more than that. Slow down next time if your intention is a relationship. You really have to get to know people so you don’t end up in this type of situation.

But most of all, let go. It didn’t work out and that’s your cue to move on rather than stay engaged in talking badly about someone who just wasn’t a good match. 😉[/quote]

You still didn’t answer my question. Or maybe you did and I just missed it.

Why is she acting in such an immature manner? The people I have been around just don’t stop talking to someone cause they showed up at their house unexpected. Thats pretty childish behavior to be honest and is not normal. Do you agree or don’t you agree?

A mature adult (She is 12 years older than me btw) would not ignore people just because they were bothered that he brought them around his friends. That makes no sense.

Number 2, why would a woman be so upset with a man to try to run him off the road if she only spent the night at his house one time, and didn’t even date him? I could see a woman doing that if she was cheated on, but this woman was the one doing the cheating on her boyfriend with a younger man. That would be me.

She really has no right to be doing the things she is doing. Its been 2 months since we went on that date. I don’t know why I should be subjected to her giving me an evil stare from across the room or having to jump out of the way of her car when she drives down the street. Maybe we are dealing with a mental issue here that is very serious. I did find out recently that she has been divorced 4 times.

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P.S. She is treating my friends poorly by completely ignoring them when she see’s them out. They are bothered by that. They didn’t do anything to her. They did drop us off at my house though. Also, If socializing with her and treating her to a nice dinner and drinks is bad, then I don’t know what planet she lives on.

Also remember again, this happened 2 months ago. When I walk down the street, I don’t have to feel like someone is gonna drive by me and try to run me off the road. This is very bazarre behavior on her part April.

I guess you could say that the reason this is bothering me still is because its starting to feel like some crazy person is after me or something.

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lol I don’t even say a word to her when I see her out at the same places.

I’m not the one giving her evil stares from across the room when we run into eachother. But she completely ignores not only me, but the friends that were with us that night witnessed how she was acting.

She more than likely is emberassed and feels guilty that she acted like a whore in front of them. Also knowing that she was seeing someone when this happened, she is afraid that they will call her out on it in public and word will get around quick of what she did. What do you think?

This is my last post. I know I said this before, but I had to reply one last time.

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Let me get this off my chest.

Its been 2 months since the date happened. Why would she still be mad at me? What did I do that was so bad to treat me and my friends poorly, who treated her wonderfully all night long? She didn’t spend one penny all night long with us. We bought her drinks, we paid for her dinner. What kind of woman wouldn’t think that the date went well if she was taken care of like that?

LOL Its just been on my mind cause I have never experienced this before with anyone. This is my last post on the subject. Please respond one more time and then we can put this to rest. Thank you 🙂

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April,

Whats with the bazarre behavior though? I’ve never experienced a woman act this way towards myself. What I mean by that is that if we did spend the night together, when they saw me the next time, the woman was civlized and classy enough to say hello and not act like I was her worst enemy in the world.

She slept over, what is the big deal? Yeah she slept in the same bed as me and we fooled around? What did she expect? Me to be the greatest lover in the world, the first time we slept together, after being out all night long for my birthday? Thats unrealistic.

Your thoughts please.

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