His ex does not have a problem with my kids nor I with hers. The problem was he did not get along with my daughter 15 yrs old because he did not agree with my methods of dispcline vs. his and I could not take my kids (i also have a son 10 yrs) sitting on pins and needles all the time. He believes it is all my fault and my daughters fault for me moving out. On top of that his ex wife calls for personal favors for herself like borrowing money which we didn’t have and he sure doesn’t have alone without me living there and does not want him to go through the court to get credit on his account for the time he is always taking the kids for her not on his scheduled court appointed time. I dont have a problem with him having the kids, I have told him to get custody actually, but I do have a problem with her manlipulating him for her own personal benefit. She borrows money from her children and does not pay them back, she is constantly leaving them with her friends so she doesn’t have to drive out of her way to take them to school. On the flip side of that he will browbeat me if I met my ex half way to get my kids or if he is working I will take them to his house in the same town I work because he feels he is a failure as a father. When I moved out, we agree to keep seeing each other exclusively the only thing that would change is basically I don’t live with him. Well now he is usually too tired to drive 10 mins down to my house and I have a hard time because I have kids so we are really not seeing each other as planned. I have put alot of energy and time into this relationship but I don’t see how things are ever going to be different. He still “blames” me for everything wrong and now he is starting to “blow” me off. Obviously I should walk away but I moved away from my friends and family to be with him and am basically 100% on my own which I am basically now. I can’t seem to cut the sexual or emotional tie I have to him and as stupid as this sounds I still have hope that we both will grow/heal together, I love him and he expresses the same. He is a great guy when his baggage is calm. Should I cut the strings and let the cards fall where they may or do you have any suggestions I may try obviously this is alot of information to type sorry. 😯
