[sweetpea37]

April,

So what you are saying is that not only did this man use me for his own selfish reasons BUT is also using MANIPULATION as a way to CONTROL the situation and keep it on HIS terms.

So basically it’s either I agree with things on HIS terms or as he so bluntly put it I can go on with my lfe.

[sweetpea37]

I’m sorry I did this. i realized my mistake after the fact and couldn’t correct it.

Won’t happen in the future.

[sweetpea37]

I have read so many times people getting upset when they don’t HEAR what they want to hear.

i on the other hand don’t because we are all entitled to our opinions.

With that being said i have come to learn that in life the people we take for “granted” are ALWAYS the people that at the end of the day are the ones we come to realize we need the most in our lives.

This fool is no different.

he can go on about his business and with his life and you know what? Sooner or later he WILL realize what a fool he has REALLY been when A)he comes knocking and gets a slammed door in his face and B) when he finds that friends like me are VERY hard to come by.

His loss in the long run.

[sweetpea37]

IMO I think you are as right as the other people that have told me the same thing.

It is VERY hard to just have to sit back and take a huge back seat to someone that you care deeply about and as frustrating as it is i have no intention of up and leaving this man.

If I did that what kind of friend would I really be? One that’s full of BS. and that’s not who I am.

When I say I am your friend I am that friend to the end. In BAD and GOOD.

[sweetpea37]

So someone could say that this man/woman who has the SO and is sleeping with someone else on the side, is a using, uncommited, selfish individual that even though one of the two people has a “title” that he/she isn’t at all serious about either person but only cares about themselves.

[sweetpea37]

I can’t tell you if she has called his number or his GF’s number since that one day but if she has called again it isn’t with the cell phone that she originally used. I have that one here with me.

As for being able to trace the number I don’t believe cell phones are tracable.

What really bothers me is I believe that what he did (as far as the messages he left are concerned) was nothing but a HUGE show for his GF and that one day he will in fact contact her again and fear that she will just accept this man back and continue doing whatever it is they do.

It couldn’t be me. I wouldn’t be able to even be in the same space as him after finding out that I was sleeping with someone elses man.

I hope she makes the right decision and stay completely away.

[sweetpea37]

I can’t say for sure if sha has been calling.

I do know if she is calling it isn’t with the cell phone she originally used because that phone is in my possession.

If she is calling then she’s using another phone or even a pay phone.

I don’t believe cell phone numbers are traceble and besides I really don’t think he knows it her and if he does has no real proof any way.

What bothers me is that I have a very strange feeling that this guy is going to contact her some kind of way after much time goes by because(I could be wrong with this) IMO that whatever the message said I believe it was big show for his GF as to prove to her that there isn’t anything happening and that i was all some kind of sick prank.

Could be wrong with this. Just my opinion.

In all seriouness I feel he will try to look her up one day. Very unhealthy situation if you ask me.

[sweetpea37]

You must have misunderstood me.
She didn’t break into his voicemail.

My GF had a cell phone of her own that she had a friend of hers use to make the phone call to his number(no it wasn’t me.I’m not getting caught up in that type of maddness.)

It was HER voicemail that this man left the messages on not HIS.

She called into HER voice mail and got the message about him doing all these foul things if whoever it was that kept calling his house etc..

I hope I clarified the situation for you.

My GF may be stupid with a lot of things but she isn’t that stupid to do something criminal.

[sweetpea37]

so i will assume that you agree on the fact that this man will get back in touch with her at some point in time.

i already told her to spam his emails and block out whatever other way he contacts her.

will she do it? i hope so for her own well being.

this man is nothing but a user and is using both her and this other woman and will continue to do so as long as these women allow it.

[sweetpea37]

so i will assume that you agree with her telling him it’s over and why?

[sweetpea37]

I do know this much that she is in a very TOXIC situation.

She needs to get out ASAP because now it’s affectint her health.

If it were me the next time I saw this man I would sit him down and in a nice way tell him this has to end and also tell him why.

It wouldn’t matter to me if he knew or didn’t know if it was me that called the house but at least he would know I knew the truth as to why he was doing what he was doing.

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