[sunshine111]

Oh man, I wish I read your reply earlier. I was soooo sure that you would say he is not that into you..
I guess I got it all wrong. When I read your book, (Yes I am a big fan!) I thought girls are supposed to decide how they would like to be treated especially at the beginning. I don’t really have rules or regulations, all I have is experience. From my experience when a guy like a girl, he will do anything to make time for her during the weekend. one weekend away is totally ok but 2 weekends in a row???

You were right I have been building up this resentment towards him and I sort of blow up at him today. 😳 After sending him the text ” no problem, I can meet you sometime after when you get back,” knowing that he wanted to meet earlier during the week, he sent me a text saying ” lame!!!!! What, are you so busy this week to see me?” He knows that I am super busy during the weekdays ( I work full time+ go to school at night) and I just felt like he wanted to fit me in his schedule rather than being considerate.

So I replied to him saying ” you know I finish school after 9 everyday and I get super tired afterwards, I am sorry.” then I felt like what am I sorry for? Why is HE making me feel bad? He did that before as well when I refused to see him during the week, so I had to drag my tired self to meet him. So I sent him another text ” wait a min, you are the one who is busy during the weekends, I will take my sorry back, thankyouverymuch.”

I think I blew it. Don’t think he would contact me after.. I mean what is he going to say after that? What do you think I should do? Should I let him get away like that? or should I send him a text in a few days or so? I don’t know what to say after that…

P.S. you are right about me defending myself not to get hurt I guess I can really see myself really liking this guy later on…

[sunshine111]

I really appreciate your advice. I want to believe that he is into me but I have my serious doubts now, here is why.

Last Friday, he sent me a text message early in the morning saying ” I miss you”, so I replied ” I miss you too.” then he said his friend from out of town is visiting him, so he won’t be able to see me this weekend but he wants to see me next week. He obviously knows that I am expecting to see him sometime during the weekend even though I didn’t ask. I just felt like he only said ” I miss you” because he felt bad that he wasn’t able to see me during that weekend. I was suspicious of his “out of town friend” although I just said ” have fun”.

Following Monday, he sent me a text asking when I can meet him. So I told him earliest I can meet him was Saturday. ( I am 100% sure he wanted to meet me during the week. ) It took him a few hours to reply my text saying he has to go to his parents’ lake house during the weekend !!!!

To me, this is a red flag. Although we did meet on Fridays couple of times, I feel like he is lying to me. I have no intention to meet a guy who is not willing to spend the weekend with me. I just told him ” That’s ok, I will meet you sometime after you come back.” with smily face on although I was NOT smiling.

By the way, I found out he is no longer a member of online dating site we met through. I guess I am very confused by it.

Please tell me what you think and let me know how I should handle it from now on.

[sunshine111]

So I took your advice and went on a date with him 3 more times after that. (6 dates so far)

He has always been a very gentleman whenever we meet. He always pays for dinner even though I insist that I pay, picks me up at home as well as dropping me off. He is so considerate in every way and I feel like he really cares about me. Also, we met through online dating site and I found that he changed his status to “unavailable”.

The problem is when we dont’ see each other, I am not sure if he likes me or not. He doesn’t text me often. At the beginning he initiated texts and asked me out. (not that he texted me everyday or maybe once every 2 or 3 days). Before the 4th date, I was really busy, so I sort of told him that I was busy that weekend and I think he felt a little rejected at that time. He basically said he got stuff to do that weekend as well although when I told him I could meet him quickly for early drinks, he said yes. So I put an effort to be more friendly to him when texting after that.

Last time I met him it was Friday which I thought that we had a great time. But he didn’t texted me until I texted him on Tuesday! And his replying texts were not anything intimate. ( A lot drier than usual) To me, this doesn’t seem normal if a guy likes a girl. I mean what about sending me a text to say he had a great time especially since we had sex.

The last guy I’ve dated almost always initiated texts for 7 months. He was a very out going person, so it was easy to tell how he felt about me. He always gave me so many compliments and always told me how much he enjoyed seeing me.

This guy I am currently dating is a bit interverted, so I am not sure this is how he is or he simply is not that interested in me. I mean it is entirely possible he just wants a regular sex, in which case, I do not want to be part of that. I am not asking he should ALWAYS initiate first but since it’s still early in a relationship, I don’t want to be the one who ask for a date just yet. Since I intiated text on Tueday, I am not going to send him a text first again. I am just really confused whether he likes me or not. On one hand, I feel like he is playing hard to get for whatever reason, on the other hand, I feel like he is not that into me. Do you think his lack of texting and agressiveness to pursue me is a sign?

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