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Thank you for the extra advice 🙂

Funny enough, she’s been dating alot of guys before me, I’m her third “longer” relationship that I know of.

You are right, I am aware of what could be/maybe is happening, but unfortunately (or fortunately for me), I’m almost 100% sure there are no “other possibilities” in mind, or at least, not definite ones, even more so, I’m afraid the problem is more focused one that I might be to blame for forgetting about the “sexy” part of the relationship, I had chances at work that I was very much focused on, and they all unfortunately “blew away”…

Whatever it’s supposed to mean, in the last few days I’ve been “cooled down” myself, and started getting at least some positive response back, not drastic, but more than in a while, and also, she invited me to “talk about it” soon enough, in fact, next month she’s coming to a wedding to her home town, and she invited me to come there to here family house to talk about it… now, this is giving me MORE THAN ENOUGH mixed ideas… I mean, “come to talk to me, let’s see if it all makes sense to continue – in my hometown, in front of my parents, together – after – or on somebody’s wedding”…

I’m sorry if I sound boring, but I’m getting more confused from second to second, but I believe you understand me…

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I am interested, and now I can “jump on the move”, I just didn’t want to threaten our (financial etc.) future, but now I am ready to do it, I just hope it isn’t too late… If it is, ok, but a try would be worth it…

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I’m 28 and she’s 25.

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28 and 25.

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Thank you for your quick reply, yes it does.

One thing I didn’t mention so it came of worst than it was is that she was never a talkative person (with anyone) when it comes to problems (no matter what they’re related to, job, relationships, friends, etc.), more of a “go with the flow”, “whatever happens – happens”, “people can’t change” person, not too focused on reevaluation, etc., as are most people in her family. I had a hard time understanding it first, and over the time learned to live with it, but in this situation, it makes it pretty hard.

As far as engagement is concerned, we we’re in fact talking about it, that we could do it when we both get secure jobs (I was supposed to start looking for a job as soon as I get there long term, which was supposed to be this year).

I wanted to visit her more often last year, but at that point money was a big problem for me, but since then, I planned it out, brought some money together so it doesn’t happen again and this year (she’s there almost three months) I was already there once, and planning to go again next month, and at least once more till the end of the year, and she’ll be coming home also for holidays, so I will try to figure out the things you mentioned.

The few things she told me were that she’s still not sure of anything, said she wouldn’t like to rush into a breakup too soon, she’s not sure if it’s maybe just a long phase, and thinks that the distance is a major problem – which it is, but not unsolvable, so (maybe it’s just my positive thinking) but I believe there is something left “saving”, so I would be very happy to hear your opinion on it, and maybe an advice or two.

Thank you again for your kind words and help.

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