[Seet elf]

Hello,

I think he might be having some problems or going through some bad or doubtful times. Its easy for us girls to talk about our problems, fear wishes but many guys prefer to do the thinking and problem solving alone.

I think you should give him some time first, maybe he’ll figure out what he really wants by putting some distance. Try not contact him and not make the first move for one or two weeks.
If he doesn’t explain himself till then, do try to have a serious talk with him: like is he bothered about you and him or its something else, or is there something he wants to tell you, what he’s expecting from you, etc.
Have faith and remain calm, i hope he soon explains himself.

[Seet elf]

Thanks:)

It’s true, i want to be happy and the key to it lies in my own hand! i feel better now that i’ve realized that my well being and self esteem are more important. I feel confident to move on and take this as a bad episode not to be repeated again:)

thanks!

[Seet elf]

Hello droyale, thanks very much for the advice.. I guess this is what I’ll do.. After all, i also have studies and lectures to attend to.
I once tried what you said (no phone calls, messages, ..) The result turned out that he didn’t contact me for 2 whole weeks. I had to go towards him after that and he said he “thought I was busy”, so didn’t disturb me. But as you say, if he thinks of me and cares for me, he should at least bother to make a move.
What feels bad is that in those long lapses of times when he goes away (weeks), i had to face some hard situations alone.This makes me despair now, and feel that maybe i should move on. What’s the use of a relationship if you cant share your problems with your partner?
But I’ll try what you say, thanks 🙂

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