[Khaleesi]

Hello April

Thanks for the prompt and honest reply. Really confused on this. For the 3 month thing, I was introduced to him late November when I was away..I didn’t come back home till December ending and I didn’t accept to date him either, told him we can jst be friends and get to know ourselves. We ve been out on about 5 dates, so I don’t knw if that’s why he hasn’t kissed me yet. I had a deep conversation with him about it yesterday and he said he jst have normal strong urges, not like he is sexually attracted to guys. But he was jst curious about how its like to sex a guy and that’s how he developed the habit. Said he doesnt get romantically involved with them, no kiss or bjs..jst sex and he never see them again. Agreed to start counseling on monday. I did a lot of reading online and discovered some straight men do involve in this, for various reasons. Plus I knw he’s nt gay cos, from what I saw, he definitely do get sexually and romantically involved with girls. For the marraige thing? We weren’t going to get married immediately..it was supposed to be a serious relationship that can lead to marraige. At least we were going to court for a year and that was his idea. I doubt he will take that risk if he is gay. M caught blw sticking around for a while and see if he has changed or moving on to start afresh..but I always have a habit of stumbling into pple’s secrets..m scared about the next awful secret I will discover in the next guy

[Khaleesi]

Ok, I just did that. Thnx alot

[Khaleesi]

Hello April. Thanks for the great job you re doing. Pls I need your honest opinion on this.
I jst started seeing him November last year. He’s funny, nice, sweet and caring. A friend paired us up, that he need a girl to get married to. We hit it off well and he’s been showing seriousness. I was ok with the pairing cos I seem to be attracting complicated guys on my own..bt now I dnt knw anymore. He has introduced me to his parent and siblings and wants me to meet his entire extended family. Pls note, I and him have not kissed or had sex. Well, some days ago he told me somtin happened to him 3 yrs ago and he hated girls. that he caught his gf sleeping wt his close cousin. And blc of that, he does only flings wt girls, But that, he has gotten over the hate now. So, today I was going through his chat and saw a conversation in december, blw him and a guy, asking the guy to arrange another guy, for him to sex..I went to another chat and I saw another conversation, he was telling a guy that he luv his lips and d*ck.. I couldn’t believe it. I confronted him about it, then he admitted he started sleeping with guys 3 yrs ago, said that was the time he hated girls and jst wanted to see what its like to sex a guy. Since then, he’s been doing it once in a while. Knelt down and started crying, swearing with his life and his family that he planed to stop with the new year, that he has never opened up to anyone about this..neither his family or friends. Now m so shocked. From what I ve noticed and found out about him I knw he’s attracted to girls and can have sex wt girls..cos he has exes and some of them dated him for yrs and are still trying to come back. so its like he is bisexual. He said he can stop sleeping with guys cos he wasn’t born wt it, its a habit he jst picked up. I dnt knw if to call it off. I feel bad having to dump him after he has opened up to me..but m really scared..dating and marrying a guy who could sleep wt guys. Pls I need ur opinion on this. Thanks alot

[Khaleesi]

Thanks for the reply. It was honest and insightful.. Just what i needed. Its so hard. Wish theres a way we can make this work.

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