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[quote=”April Masini”]I’m sorry for your pain, and I’m glad that you made what really sounds like the right decision. What you’re going through now — the feelings, the timeline, the triggers — are all normal. It’s very easy for a breakup to still feel painful a year later…. and sometimes, depending on the relationship, it can even take longer. But the trick is to allow yourself to grieve and feel sad, but not to wallow in those feelings. Figure out what triggers happiness (puppies!? football?! funny movies?!) and balance your life. Eventually, you’ll have more happy experiences than sad ones. Try this exercise that I recommend to people who are single and interesting in being more accessible and available to meet others: Smile and make small talk (one or two sentences at the least) with 20 new women every day! That alone, should get you out of your rut. There’s something about smiling at someone, and their smiling back at you that just warms the heart — even if it’s a stranger.

You did the right thing and you’re going to be okay. Now start adding things into your life that make you feel good, and know that seeing her with a new boyfriend is bound to make you feel sad, angry, depressed — and that’s okay. It’s temporary.[/quote]

Thank you so much! I appreciate your advice and the fact that you graciously indulged my emo lol. Also, that exercise you recommended sounds fun!

Thanks again, and I will definitely take everything you said to heart 🙂

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