[Michael915]

I’ll do it. It’ll be a little awkward but I will. When we got engaged, she moved here. She had been living with her parents about an hour and a half away from here. She lives with my best friend’s girlfriend’s older sister. And my best friend and his girlfriend are moving in there soon as the older sister is moving out. So it’ll just be my girlfriend living with my best friend and his girlfriend. She doesn’t want to live together before marriage. So like I said this is the right move. Just saying that we may have to remain somewhat civil as my best friend will be living in the same house as her. Kind of an awkward situation ha.

[Michael915]

Ok I understand. It’s always been so hard because I know how crappy I felt when we broke up last time. I think we are dating for the wrong reasons but both are scared to break up with the other. It’s tough.

[Michael915]

I’ve actually known they were deal breakers for a long time. So I just changed some of my views for her even though I was lying. Because I figured she would eventually realize that it’s alright to have different views and still date. But I should have never done that. Also, we actually aren’t engaged anymore we are starting over, so just in a relationship. I still have the ring in case we ever do again.

[Michael915]

I am 25 and she is 24. It’s been about 2 years since we started dating.

[Michael915]

Thanks for messaging back. This is great advice. When you said you’re confused what I mean by her getting upset about marriage, what I mean is that she just doesn’t know if I’m the right one and wants to wait and see things through. The first year we dated she was happy about the prospect of marriage. But when we got engaged I just started asking a lot of questions about how I no longer wanted to go to church every week and so forth. And she wants to marry someone who goes to church every single week and has somewhat the same views on things. I know I can make a sacrifice to go to church every week. But I’m just not sure if that’s what I want to do. I just feel like this relationship is all about her and me being this guy that fits her fantasy. I don’t expect her to do everything I want. But I am ok dating her with her beliefs. I just don’t agree with them. I feel as if she is ok with my beliefs but doesn’t want to marry someone with my beliefs. I’ll talk to her about everything as well.

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