[irishyeats]

Brilliant advice, April. I see now why you have this website and its so successful!

Its true, you find after a break up and when you have been dumped by someone you love you go over everything in your mind, what did I do? what could I have done?
but it gets you nowhere, I could not have done anything more. Maybe the timing also, it does play a part I believe, we are starting our lives in finding careers, she has college still to complete so financially it was not easy, distance was not so bad but not close either, her child becoming a teenager, it just all came to a head I think, I will never know if it was a case of right person, wrong time. Or wrong person wrong time! I am happy we spoke after it all, I did not want it to end badly and she did not either, we had to much respect for each other so happy for that. I know maybe one day she will wonder where I am or what I am doing, as I will wonder about her. One of those things isn’t it, lifes lesson for all, you have to be hurt to find real happiness I believe. You wonder will they ever regret it or think they made a bad choice but only they will ever know that answer, and I do truly wish her love and happiness, despite her hurting me more than anyone has ever done. Think that shows you my love for her was real, I can be proud of that much. You have to find someone who loves you, for you. All of you. Flaws and all. That is real love. My friends told me as you did here, when you find it, you will know, you will feel it and it will be amazing. Time is all I got now to heal, and I am. Week by week I feel better, stronger, I think more clearly now. I am proud of the man I am. How I acted, I never once said a bad word to her, never disrespected her. I am proud. Thank you so much for your replies, you have helped me. Its nice to hear anothers perspective. You are doing a great thing here, you help so many and maybe you do not realise just how much so. You have a friend for life now in me, all the way from little old Ireland 🙂

[irishyeats]

Thank you for your reply April. I do agree, I did little wrong here, it just knocked me how sudden she ended it and how cold it was but I know she is a good person she is not evil, just a lot going on and issues, I think her past is not good, she told me a lot and she has not dealt with that and she brought it into our relationship, she did say she was sorry she chased me, she said all those nice things and then had to walk away, that i was brought into her life as she cant handle it at the best of times herself. I will never hate her, I care about her a lot, but we had to let go. Find our way. I will keep my eyes open for someone who will love me properly. Thank you again April you are brilliant 🙂

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