[Nick Roy]

Wow, Askapril, you have spoken to my heart.
“If someone really loves you, they don’t suddenly disappear or stop contacting you.”
You should not wait for such a person and move on in your life because this hot-and-cold situation is not a sign of a healthy relationship.
Such guys just come to pass the time, they talk when they feel like it, and disappear when they get bored, so you should stay away from such a person.
Stop waiting for people like this; move forward in your life, and you will find a better man.

[Nick Roy]

I think the problem is not sexual, but emotional.
In the beginning, there is a “new relationship energy” in which everything seems exciting, but over time, it diminishes.
If she says she doesn’t feel like having sex, don’t pressure her; give her space.
Meanwhile, I agree with April’s advice that Sex may not be enjoyable for her, so pay attention to foreplay, romance, and techniques.
Ask April here, I need your advice on that
How to keep the ‘honeymoon phase’ alive forever?

[Nick Roy]

I think you should make yourself so capable and happy that he realizes what he has lost. Only when you love yourself will anyone else love you.
I’m guessing that you’re suffering from an emotional breakdown right now. In this state, any decision a person makes is wrong. First, cool down.
AskApril is right, that you should give him space,
So that he feels your absence and comes back.

[Nick Roy]

I think love is where you feel safe and happy with your partner, not where you are always in a state of anxiety, afraid that he will leave you.
Wao, April, I really liked what you said that the definition of love is not in the word but in the behavior. If someone says he loves you, but his actions don’t match, then it’s not love. It’s just an attachment.

[Nick Roy]

Why are you wasting your time and calm for a person like this?
A man who is considering you as just an option, and also going to a cheating ex, can never be a dream man.
It’s better to leave a man who doesn’t importance you.
AskApril I love your perspective. That, as you said, “the person you are calling a dream man You should first see if he is really capable of this”.
Your self-respect is more valuable than that of any man.

[Nick Roy]

I agree with AskApril, if she didn’t want to meet, she would pretend to be busy, but when she said sure, it means she’s also interested in meeting you
Anyway, Valentine’s Day is coming, so you should use this chance wisely. Get her a beautiful gift and plan a nice date for her. I hope she will feel comfortable with you, and her shyness will decrease.

[Nick Roy]

Brother, it’s simple. You are just a time pass or emotional support for her. She has fun with you, eats food, and lightens her heart because she has had a breakup and wants to call out her old sorrow.
And I think you’ve become just a “Rebound” to her. If you dare, pin him to the wall and ask
What am I to you? If she says just a friend, then brother, go your own way
Or
Give her some time, don’t put pressure on her, she will come closer when she feels comfortable, enjoy the friend zone for now until she fully recovers.
April, I am new to your forum, but I often read your advice, and I really like that you give very professional and practical advice.

When I read this post. I remembered something about myself. When I went on a first date with my girlfriend for the first time, when I tried to kiss her, she pulled back as if she had been shocked by electricity, and I was confused.
Now AskApril, I have an innocent question: why do girls act like this?

[Nick Roy]

Look Stella!! The truth is that, When someone says their phone is broken, they may not have seen the message or couldn’t reply, which is an excuse. In today’s era, no one’s phone can stay broken for weeks.
If she is busy with her university life and cannot give you time, stop chasing her. The more you chase her, the less you will be valued by the other person. Please give her some space; she may contact you herself.
No matter how busy a person is, when they love someone, they always make time for them.
Meanwhile, I really liked April’s point that keeping a relationship a secret creates a lot of complications. If they don’t give people a chance, they won’t get support either. Therefore, there is a need to rethink the secret relationship.

[Nick Roy]

Don’t be nervous, this is normal. According to psychology, we are often attracted to people who resemble our family members because they make us feel comfortable and safe.
And it’s important to remember that your brother and your boyfriend are two different people.
You should pay attention to the things about your boyfriend that make him different from your brother. Then, the way of talking, his priorities, his scent, and the feelings he has for you.
Or give it some time; these gross feelings will go away when you focus on his Unique personality.

[Nick Roy]

Hi!
I read your entire story, and I think you’re getting too emotional. That girl isn’t interested in you. If she were interested in you, she would definitely go on a coffee date with you. April, I liked one thing you said,that He has kept the date very cool and boring. That’s why she thinks that the date is not important to him.
I don’t think you should send her any messages now.
Give her space. So if she messages you within a few days, assume she’s yours, and if not, move on and enjoy your life.

[Nick Roy]

I read your post, and in my point of view, you should not have a relationship with him. If you think you want to give him another chance, then ask yourself the question first.
Can I trust him again?
And what is the guarantee that he won’t flirt again?
My dear, if trust is completely broken, staying together just for the sake of crying or because of old friendship will only give you stress.

[Nick Roy]

April, I 100% agree with you. This isn’t just a dinner issue; it’s a priorities issue.
I still don’t understand your boyfriend.
Mostly, relationships are built on compromises. If your boyfriend is still holding on to old things after 3 years and doesn’t care about your feelings, that’s a red flag. But before breaking up, both of you should talk to each other and explain to him that your families are important too.
And Askapril is right that this is a deal breaker. If he can’t face your parents today, he will run away from the responsibilities he has to face with you in the future.
Love is not about being together happily; it is also about sitting together at a boring dinner.

[Nick Roy]

Hey, I’m really impressed with your boyfriend. Most boyfriends aren’t generous and neither am I. If he’s spending happily, that’s his choice and pleasure. Why are you thinking about it ? You should be happy. Give your boyfriend something special that is close to his heart. Sometimes a thoughtful surprise leaves a greater impact than thousands spent on it.
Here I agree with Askapril that it shouldn’t be a competition. Make him feel just as special as he makes you feel but in your own style.

[Nick Roy]

It seems like you are getting too emotional in this relationship. Tell me one thing.Have you talked to her openly about how his behavior makes you feel?
In my point of view, a girl who is truly interested gives not just words but time, attention, and consistency.
Askapril’s is absolutely right here, love is not proven by just saying “I love you,” but by attitude and preference.
Meeting only once a week and not following through on your promise to message is a sign of low interest. If you feel like something is wrong, So please don’t ignore your feelings.

[Nick Roy]

I think it’s natural. Sometimes hormonal birth control can drastically reduce sexual desire, and this can disturb the relationship. Love is not just about emotions, it’s also about physical compatibility.
I appreciate April’s advice, and I think it’s better for both of you to talk openly about how to handle the Intimacy issue so that you will be able to find a solution that respects both of your needs. I hope it will make your relationship beautiful and enjoyable again.

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