[Alysa]

Brother! The girl who writes “daily” love you love you for 4 months and then breaks up with you after ignoring you for a weekend wasn’t “love”, she was just validation. She didn’t want your love; she wanted your attention.
Put your walls up high. You need someone who will pick up your calls even when she’s having fun, not someone who will forget you when she goes to a party. Next time, avoid such “fast-forward” relationships; the fire that starts so quickly goes out just as quickly.
AskApril was right that both of them had different expectations. The guy should have shared his feelings (that he’s missing out) instead of getting caught up in the “right vs. wrong” cycle. Anyway, fighting over texting always messes things up, because a small spark can become a wildfire.

[Alysa]

You said you want to treat her like a “goddess”. Dude, when you put someone on a pedestal, your own level drops. Instead of putting her on your head, first see if she disrespects you. Respect means that if you’re feeling insecure, she should take care of your feelings, not go out to dinner with her ex.
AskApril was absolutely right that you don’t like a girl who keeps in touch with her exes, so you should just leave her instead of trying to change her.

[Alysa]

Being nice is not a bad thing, but being ‘always available and agreeable’ is boring. Self-respect is not called arrogance. If you don’t like something, say it. Learn to say ‘no’, it’s the strongest word in the world when said at the right time.
This April quote is really profound. She says that confidence is just a show-off, while it comes from your Inner Competence. When you are a master at something, you don’t need to prove it; it shines through in your tone and body language.

[Alysa]

If that guy is calling you his wife behind your back without telling you, then it’s not “cute”, it’s a red flag. It’s a sign of delusional behavior. I think he has made a home with you in his own imaginary world.

[Alysa]

Hi,
You showed her that you are a liability, not a support system, during tough times. Next time you go to bed with someone, put as much emphasis on “responsibility” as you do on “fun.”
askApril was right that this pregnancy scare was a “wake-up call” for her. She realized that she was compromising her values ​​for a man who couldn’t give her what she wanted.
According to April, it’s not about the kids, it’s about “compatibility.” She’s keeping quiet because she’s probably convinced that this relationship isn’t right for her.

[Alysa]

When a man misuses your firearm license and breaks things, the time to be “firm and kind” is gone. You are not his therapist; you are his victim. Stop feeling sorry for his combat PTSD; trauma may be an explanation, but it is not an excuse for abuse.
A man who has filed for bankruptcy has no value in his promises. Lock up your credit cards immediately and keep your car keys with you.
AskApril was right that to check the lease agreement. If the house is in your name, you are responsible; if it is in both names, you are both stuck.
Say the breakup calmly and firmly, without getting emotional. Instead of showing anger, just say,It didn’t work out and try to work out an exit plan.

[Alysa]

It’s okay to be liberal, but being disrespectful is trashy. If he knows you’re feeling insecure, a ‘real man’ doesn’t rub his past flings in your face. He maintains his distance so that you feel safe and secure.
Are you “guarded”? Good. Put your walls up higher and throw this guy out. You’re not part of a bunch of options; you should be a priority.
Wao, I like AskApril’s point of view that it’s easy for someone to label you as “jealous” to avoid taking responsibility, but the truth is, your values just don’t align. April was right that a man who can’t put you on a pedestal doesn’t deserve you.

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