[SpaceEcho]

Hi.

First of all, I apologize. It’s the second time I post here. But I totally forgot my previous username. I hope this is ok.

At the time, I was told that I needed to go out there and start flirting. I agree. But I realized a big stumbling block. How do I appear confident and natural? Even maybe a little bit cocky? I know how to do “nice”. But for many obvious reasons I don’t wanna be “The Nice Guy”. At the same time, after so many rejections, I fear that if I don’t at least look confident and sure of myself, I risk being laughed at.

So, any tips on how look confident? Any research I can do? Any practice?

Thanks in advance.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Confidence is very important to dating. In fact, most women are attracted to confident men more than they are to handsome, rich or funny men. That’s why it’s worth spending some time cultivating confidence. The best way to gain confidence is to create some success for yourself. Find things you’re good at and do them so that you’re successful. This can be a job, a relationship, a sport — whatever you have in your life that works, nourish it! 🙂

[Alysa]

Being nice is not a bad thing, but being ‘always available and agreeable’ is boring. Self-respect is not called arrogance. If you don’t like something, say it. Learn to say ‘no’, it’s the strongest word in the world when said at the right time.
This April quote is really profound. She says that confidence is just a show-off, while it comes from your Inner Competence. When you are a master at something, you don’t need to prove it; it shines through in your tone and body language.

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