[Fozia]

AskApril, you gave the right advice, but you are saying to feed him cookies and send him funny jokes. Really? A girl who has battled medical issues to improve her “intimacy,” who has been faithful for 7 years, now becomes a clown to lighten the mood of a “wishy-washy” man?
Joe’s stress isn’t coming from your drama; it’s coming from ‘Adulting.’ He’s freaking out over life’s responsibilities, and he thinks ending the relationship is the easiest form of ‘stress relief.’ If you try to win him over with cookies now, you’ll be doing this for the next 10 years every single time a boss yells at him at the office, he’ll threaten you with a breakup.

[Fozia]

Hi
This guy is playing a very “safe game.” He knows you’re married, so he’s just throwing out an “emotional hook” to get your full attention, but he doesn’t have to make any effort or commitment.
As long as you’re married, you’re just a “safe fantasy” to this guy. He knows you won’t fall for him because you have a “tag.”
I think this guy is having fun, and you’re getting emotional. Step back a bit and see if he still asks about your parents if you’re not “available.”

[Fozia]

What you are calling “difficulties” and “complicated love” is actually pure greed. This guy is not a poor man standing on two paths; this guy is enjoying an “emotional buffet,” and you two girls are serving him.
He is showing how “noble” he is by not kicking his ex/girlfriend out of the house. Please! If he were that loyal, he wouldn’t be going on trips with you. He is just maintaining his image while on the inside, he is using both of them.
April is 100% right that “He’s winning.” This guy has the perfect setup, he has the comfort of home (girlfriend) and the fun of the outdoors (you). April says he will never change because he doesn’t need to change. Stop treating him like a “project” and focus on yourself.

[Fozia]

The truth is, the guy is using the Breakup by Ghosting technique. He’s not man enough to say “I’m not having fun anymore,” so he’s pretending to be tired.
When a guy says, “Maybe I should let you go,” it actually means, “I’ve already packed my bags, and I’m just waiting for the taxi.” The only reason he backtracked and said he wanted to stay was so he wouldn’t have to look like the bad guy.
AskApril, you’re right that the guy has lost interest. So don’t waste your time, move on, and find someone actually interested in you.

[Fozia]

That girl is totally interested in you. No girl compares to her partner “for no reason” and doesn’t do ” bumping” or “titty walking” unintentionally. She’s testing you.
AskApril is right: the girl is 100% interested and is giving clear signals to end your old story and come to me.
The man should make the first move. If you’re ready, ask her out on a date and make it clear that it’s a “date”. But I think you should finalize your divorce first and then talk to her straight: I like you, but I’m not moving forward until your last chapter is closed. Don’t make the mistake: getting physical without clearing the status will only leave you as “the other guy”, and you’ll be the one who suffers later.

[Fozia]

When there are constant fights at home, and respect has been lost, sex becomes just a “mechanical exercise”. A man needs peace, not just a body. If a man is afraid of the same harsh words when he comes home, then performing in bed will not be peaceful for him; it will become another duty.
If 12 months of an 18-month marriage are “hell”, then this is not a “rough patch”, this is becoming your “destiny”. Ask April’s advice works only when there is “desire” left on both sides. Here, only humiliation and fear are left. In my opinion, until both of you sit down and decide whether to “either stay with respect or leave with respect,” then bubble baths and candles will not change anything.

[Fozia]

Stop being so nice! The more you try to be “perfect” in front of his family, the more they will push you. They think you are afraid of them or insecure, which is why they are becoming more aggressive. If your boyfriend “stands up” to you but their family still acts rudely, my dear, you should stop going to his house.
AskApril, your style is amazing! You don’t talk in circles; you talk straight and honestly, and that is your greatest strength. People come here to hear sympathy and sweet talk, but you show them the truth that the problem is not in the behavior of others, but in their own reactions.
Great advice!

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