[Sean]

If she has already cheated on you, what more reason do you have to stay? Think about it, she made the mistake, and yet you are the one trying to fix everything. Can you really still say she loves you in that situation?
Maybe it would be better to end it, because that’s where things are already heading anyway.
Also, the rules you set might have made her feel suffocated or controlled, which could be why she didn’t follow them.
Even though it’s hard, you might need to distance yourself from her for now so both of you can think clearly. The relationship is no longer healthy.
Another thing is, there may come a point where every time you argue, you keep bringing up what she did, and that will only make things worse.

[Sean]

In my opinion, this is not really a good kind of joke or play. Especially since you’re not kids anymore, it feels like she’s just messing with you.

It’s up to you whether you want to continue it or not, especially since you also said there’s a part of you that enjoys what she does. But personally, I think it can be embarrassing for a man.

That’s just my opinion though, the final decision is still yours.

[Sean]

You didn’t mean to hurt him, what happened happened while you were broken up, and it’s clear you never wanted him to see it or feel hurt because of it.

But he intentionally chose to get revenge. That’s very immature, and it really shows that the relationship isn’t healthy anymore. It would be better to leave him because there’s really nowhere this relationship is going.

He also doesn’t seem to have respect for you anymore based on what he did. And honestly, you can’t really call that love, because someone who truly loves you wouldn’t deliberately hurt you or seek revenge like that.

So it’s best to move on.

[Sean]

In my opinion, men like that who use “I’m not ready” as an excuse are just playing around. Because it’s actually simple, if a man truly likes you, there shouldn’t be so many excuses or complicated reasons.

It’s already clear to you that you should stop this. Do it now, because if you let it go on longer, it might become deeper and more emotional, and it will only become harder for you to make a decision later on.

[Sean]

Give him more time. It’s actually clear from what he said that he’s interested in you because if he wasn’t, he wouldn’t have continued seeing you after the first date. There are really people like that, especially those who are shy or introverted.

Instead of doubting him, try to help him. You can also communicate your concerns in a nice and gentle way, like explaining the basic dating etiquette you’re used to. Since he doesn’t have much experience in dating yet, he may simply not know what to do, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you.

[Member]

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