[Walter]

You need to explain to her clearly what you want. If that kind of thing is an issue for you, it’s better to be direct instead of just dropping hints.
Maybe she’s actually willing to adjust, you never really know unless you talk about it honestly. Things like that can be learned and improved if someone truly wants to. It just takes open communication and a willingness from both sides to meet halfway.

[Walter]

How can you expect her to give you a second chance if you’re not changing? You need action. There are already signs that your attitude might be part of the reason she lost interest. That’s the behavior you need to work on and change.
Try courting her again, but don’t just rely on words. Put real, consistent effort into your actions every day. If you’re going to ask for another chance, it should come with genuine effort and visible change in how you act.

[Walter]

You didn’t do anything wrong, he is the one who has the problem. You’re also right that you can’t just wait around for him.
In this situation, the answer is to move on from him. It seems unlikely that he will change, especially since you’ve been on and off for 2 years. That usually means you’re not really compatible, so it would be better to end the relationship for your own peace of mind.

[Walter]

You’re not the only one experiencing something like this, many people go through it. But honestly, what you’re feeling is wrong in this situation because you are already married.

What you should do is stop and distance yourself from your husband’s friend. Try to let go of what you’re feeling for him because it’s not right since you already have a husband. The choice is yours now, whether you will choose what is right or what is wrong.

[Walter]

It’s clear that you’re not comfortable with the way he is courting you. If you’re not that comfortable yet, you should talk to him and set some boundaries, there’s nothing wrong with that. If he truly likes you, he will understand.

If you’re not ready for him to meet your parents yet, you can make an excuse for now and just tell him you’re busy on Christmas because you’ll be spending it with your whole family.

[Walter]

The mother is already confused about your intentions—what do you really want? Why don’t you just admit it and ask her out on a date? That’s what you want anyway.

Six months is already a long time, and you’re still in the friend zone. You might even get beaten to it by someone else.

[Walter]

It seems like he has lost interest in you after a month of dating. For me, it’s not a good idea to confront him. Since you’ve just started, what’s happening now can still be considered normal.

Usually, relationships that work out go beyond just one or two months of dating. For now, you can just wait and see if he will make an effort to reach out to you.

It’s also not good if you’re always available like you’re only there when he needs you. It would be better to let him be the one to chase and put in effort. If you feel like you’re just wasting your time, then it might be better to move on instead.

[Member]

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