[Gerwin]

In my opinion, he’s being selfish because he doesn’t want to put a label on your relationship again but he also doesn’t want to let you go. He wants you to stay committed to him but only as “friends with benefits” where you’re not allowed to have any other man in your life except him.

If he truly loves you, he should be proud to have you as his girlfriend and be open about getting back together even if you had problems in the past because now you’re choosing each other again. But that’s not what he’s doing. Why he need other people to know when he’s already getting what he wants from you, like sex? Right?

It’s not right to tolerate the kind of setup he wants if you’re not okay with it. If you want a boyfriend who is proud to show the world that you’re his girlfriend then you should find someone else because he’s not that person.

[Gerwin]

In my opinion, suddenly cutting off communication was not a good idea. It was like you let her go and left her hanging without any idea why you suddenly stopped talking to her.

For now, try opening up to her again and expressing your feelings. Maybe her situation with her family is better now and this could be your final chance to see if there is still hope with her or if she really only sees you as a friend.

If she rejects you again for the second time, it would be better to respect her decision and just remain her friend. And if you can’t handle only being seen as a friend then it’s better to distance yourself and shift your focus to other things so you don’t get hurt. Keep yourself busy and distracted.

[Gerwin]

Maybe it’s because she’s still recovering from her wisdom teeth surgery, that’s not a small thing, it can be really painful.

Also, you mentioned she’s only 19 and still exploring different things she hasn’t experienced yet. For now, the best thing you can do is to keep courting her every day, show her you like her through your actions not just words. That way she can really see your value.

Try not to overthink things when there’s no real basis for it yet. It’s not healthy for the relationship.

[Gerwin]

Based on your story, it’s quite obvious that you both like each other. I don’t see any real problem. You’re both at the right age and already financially stable.

If you’re already slowly falling for her, then allow yourself to fall. There doesn’t seem to be anything to be afraid of, it looks like she’s a good woman, and it’s also clear that she likes you.

If you want a direct answer, just ask her. Be straightforward and confident about it, that’s the most important thing.

That’s all you really need to do.

[Gerwin]

Your girlfriend has been through a lot, and I know this is very hard for her, but that is not enough reason to do things you haven’t thought through properly or to simply act based on your emotions.
You are both very young, don’t rush things. You are 17 and she is 15. When you turn 18, you could even face legal consequences for what you are doing.
Love each other, but don’t force things that are not yet right or appropriate. That’s just how youth is, full of strong emotions and impulsive decisions, but you need to be careful and think things through.

[Gerwin]

You’ve only had one date together, so try not to think too much about it yet. It’s better to get to know each other first. Invest more time and effort before deciding whether she likes you or is just playing with your feelings.

You can also ask her directly later on, but be straightforward about it, tell her you like her and show it through your actions too.

[Gerwin]

In my opinion, he actually likes the attention he gets from being a womanizer, it seems like he sees it as something that adds to his image or identity. It feels like he’s just playing around and enjoying the situation.

It would be better for you to just avoid him. Based on your story, he doesn’t seem like a healthy person to be in a relationship with. Don’t bring a problem into your life that you’ll just end up hurting yourself with.

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