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You said “she was generous”, but the truth is that the girl was actually testing you. When a man says, “I lost my wallet”, the girl’s mind immediately gets the tag of irresponsible. The girl fulfilled her duty by paying the bill, but her desire for you died right there. She couldn’t see you as a protector or provider.
You thought the girl rejected you by inviting her friends, but I agree with AskApril 100% here that the girl was scared! She felt that you weren’t making any romantic moves, so the atmosphere might get awkward, so she invited her friends in the middle as a “buffer”. You kept ignoring her in the cycle of being “cool”, and the girl understood that he has no interest in me at all.
Remember, the girl is giving you this silent rejection only because you gave her the “silent treatment” (i.e., by not flirting). This silence can only be broken by boldness.

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The girl has not changed, but the truth is that she was never yours. She probably didn’t feel the security or “safety” she needed from you, or you didn’t have the personality to lead her. As soon as she found an Alpha or successful man of her choice, all her don’ts (like surgery, sex, or kids) automatically changed to “yeses.”
You are comparing yourself physically and financially to this new guy. The real problem is not height, but self-confidence.
Instead of getting more depressed by this new guy’s success, focus on improving your life.
You should stop thinking about this girl’s daily sex life or implants now. As long as a person keeps counting the muscles and bank balance of others, he can never focus on his own development. You should work on your fitness and career so that next time, you become someone’s first choice and not just an option.

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First of all
AskApril, you are truly a wonderful relationship advisor! Your greatest strength is that you don’t sugar-coat things, but rather, you tell the truth, even when it’s hard.
The way you dismissed Cloud’s “poor” story and told him that the problem wasn’t his friend, but his own unclear intentions, shows your deep insight. You don’t just give advice, you teach people to face their own mistakes. Your frank and unbiased advice is what can really make people change.
Your expert opinion is truly commendable
By the way, badmouthing a friend while keeping an eye on his girlfriend is not the sign of a best friend. If the friend was cheating, instead of calling him out, you were basically enabling it, thinking, At least Nikki will come to me crying. That is a total ’emotional vulture’ move.
Same problem in 2011 and same in 2014! This means that Cloud enjoys “competition” more than the girl. Unless there is a third person in line, Cloud does not get peace.
I think you really need “AskApril” books, not the girl, so that you can be a little “original”, and get out of this “copy-paste” friendship and jealousy.

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The guy in the pub was calling you “girlfriend” and showing off to his friends. This was often not a real interest, but a way to be “cool” in front of his friends. If he really liked you, the easiest thing for him to do would be to reply to your message on Tinder.
It can seem a little “desperate” to be hanging around the pub over and over. I agree with AskApril, to send him a direct message one last time or go back to the pub again. If he still says “umm, ahh,” just block him and move on.
AskApril was right that “play the field” don’t mean go crazy over just this one guy, and look at other options.

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Hii
This guy is saying the line “I don’t want to be serious” when your toothbrush is lying on his sink! He introduced you to his family, took you to a funeral that’s not friendship. This guy was just using your emotional labor for free.
And when he said ‘I’ve lived’ in a sexual context, he was just feeding his own ego. He’s trying to act like a ‘cool bachelor’ while being incredibly insecure.
The best part is that you said “no.” These guys use “confusion” as a weapon to keep girls chasing after them and chatting with other girls.
I don’t think this guy is scared; he’s just selfish. He liked you, but not enough to give up his “options.” He used you until you spoke of your self-respect. For such a person, you should give up even your toothbrush and your house, and never look back!

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Wao
I like AskApril’s style, she is actually one of those people who doesn’t tell you what you want to hear, but what you need to hear.
Indeed, that’s what makes April Masini special. Most people get carried away when giving advice, but she speaks directly and honestly so that the next person can come out of the dream world and face reality.
I think if a person is suddenly ‘invisible’ after a year and a half, then April is right that the person is preparing an exit plan.
She told the girl to either watch quietly and see when the relationship ends, or to speak directly and say, What’s the problem?
Dear, this person is disappearing gradually. You need to stop crying and become a little busy yourself. It’s only when you stop chasing them that these people either come to their senses or the path finally clears for you.

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I saw this post and read everyone’s opinions and advice, but the truth is that that woman is not a “lonely woman”. She is playing like a “Predator”. She knows very well that the boy is young and his hormones can dominate him. The repeated bra-showing, nudity-talking, and swimsuit-showing are all part of a calculated game. She is gradually destroying your morality so that when she makes the final “move”, you cannot say no.
The decision you have made that I will tell my friend.
There can be no bigger “blunder” than this. You will go and tell this boy, who is already a little mentally weak, that your mother talks to me about getting naked? That boy will break down inside. His trust in his mother and his only friend will be lost. This is not honesty, but sheer cruelty to this guy.
Dear, remember that the world is full of women. Your friend’s mother, and that too of a friend who trusts you so much. Doing anything with him will not make you a man but a scoundrel.

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