[Sheannel]

Because of your desire to survive, you ended up marrying the man you are with now. There was no love involved, so you should expect that the outcome may not be good.
Regarding improving your life, do it for yourself and not because of the new man you are talking to. Whether he is there or not, you should still work on yourself and your future.
And lastly, if you become independent and are able to live without your husband, then choose your happiness. Don’t stay in a miserable life and don’t force yourself to endure it unnecessarily.

[Sheannel]

Regardless of whether what she’s saying is true or not, one thing is clear from her actions—she is pushing you away. She is not interested in continuing things with you.

That’s why you need to move on and stop insisting or bothering her. Instead, focus your love and attention on someone else who can return it and appreciate you in the same way.

[Sheannel]

In my opinion, you need to fix yourself first. In a relationship between two people, commitment is very important, and if you can’t give that, it will likely end in a breakup anyway.

That’s why it’s important for you to reflect on yourself first. There might be a real reason why you feel this way.

[Sheannel]

If there are no changes in the situation, and you can clearly see that things are already unhealthy and everything is becoming chaotic, then you may need to consider divorce.

Especially since you are capable of working while also taking care of the child. That shows you can manage and support yourself and your baby even without relying fully on him.

At the same time, you should also look into any legal support he may still be required to provide for you and your child. It’s important to process and secure those rights as well, because they can be a big help for both you and your child moving forward.

[Sheannel]

I’m not really sure which decision is the right one, but you should choose whatever matters more to you—your career or your love life. Long-distance relationships are really difficult.
Just imagine, even when you’re still together now, you already feel paranoid. What more when you are far away from each other?
In the end, it still depends on you and what your priority is—your love or your career abroad.

[Sheannel]

You know, there are really no strict criteria when it comes to love. Every person has their own personality, and no one is perfect. All of us deserve to love and to be loved.There’s nothing wrong with you. It might just be that the people you were in relationships with weren’t compatible with you.
You will find the right person for you someday.

[Sheannel]

First of all, you should look for a girl that you genuinely like. Once you find someone, you need to make the first move right away. You have to be confident and avoid showing that you are weak.

To become confident, you also need to be ready for rejection or negative outcomes. Some people get stuck and never try with a girl because they are afraid of being rejected. That’s why you need to be prepared for that. In other words, you should know how to accept defeat or rejection when it happens.

[Sheannel]

Long-distance relationships are really difficult, especially when you didn’t start off that way. You both got used to being together, so it’s understandable that she might be irritable or emotional because she misses you.

For now, just try to be more patient if you don’t want your relationship to fall apart. It also seems like you’re the one who understands the situation more and is trying to hold things together, so patience will really matter in your case.

[Sheannel]

First of all, I’m not really sure what you’re into, but this kind of preference is definitely unusual. And honestly, it’s hard to avoid the impression that it comes off as creepy or inappropriate.

Another thing is, it’s not a good idea at all. You could seriously get hurt, and in worse cases, it might even affect your ability to have children if the impact is strong enough.

No one is likely to do something like that unless they are extremely angry at you and actually want to hurt you. And that’s not the kind of situation you want to put yourself in—you might end up in real danger or get into serious trouble.

[Sheannel]

I’m not really sure what advice to give you because you didn’t ask a specific question, but it seems like the issue is that your boyfriend may not actually want to go through with the divorce from his wife.

Well, the only thing I can say is you might need to leave him and find someone else who isn’t already married. I also think there’s a chance that he may just be using you as emotional support or a fallback while he keeps his current situation unresolved.

[Sheannel]

In my opinion, if the only reason for her confusion is fear from what she experienced in her past relationship, then the simple thing you should do is prove that you are different. Show her that you are serious about her and that you will not hurt her. Make her feel emotionally and physically safe with you.

Just continue courting her and consistently do good things for her until she realizes that you are worthy of her trust and love.

But you should also look at the situation carefully. You need to know when it’s time to keep going and when it might be time to step back. Don’t forget to leave something for yourself too—protect your own heart as well.

[Member]

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