[willow]

Honestly, your wife should get an award! A woman who hates smoking, just sitting there holding a cigarette for his partner, that’s a big deal. The husband should get the kitchen remodeled or take his wife to the Maldives, because the poor thing’s throat is getting worse.
You feel like you’re begging, even though your wife isn’t saying “No”. In fact, you’re feeling guilty that you’re making your honest wife misbehave. Unless you yourself get over your shame, you won’t be able to enjoy watching your wife become a vamp.
I think this isn’t just a bedroom issue, it’s a battle between the guy’s own good boy image and his dark desires. Until he stops thinking of himself as a weird guy, he’ll feel like he’s sinning.

[willow]

The one who texts after 4 days, right? She’s not an “I miss you” signal; she’s just here to get her emotional fix. She wants to see if you’re still there waiting. When you reply right away, she gets the peace of mind that come on, there’s a backup plan, and then she falls asleep peacefully, while you keep solving Rubik’s cube all night.

She feels like you’re always available for her because you’re the “Best Guy”. Give her back that “Best Guy” award. When she realizes that your attention isn’t cheap enough to keep getting even after a breakup, then your value in her psychology will increase again.
I think you should throw the flowers and birthday plans in the trash right now. Press the “Silence” button right now. If she needs you, she’ll find a way. But if you run after her, she’ll just keep running.
Stay cold, stay bold!

[willow]

This is the saddest thing, but the truth is that he was never a best friend. A person who plays with your feelings and worries about the future is not a friend.
It was easy for the guy because he was physically distant. When it came to real life and responsibility, he made a break excuse to clear the way.
And you wronged yourself by tagging yourself as a “soulmate”. Soulmates never ignore you for three months.
You should forget about this ring as an old dream. That guy will not come back, and even if he does, he will only bring the same old “future talk”, the action will still be zero. You should clean your phone and delete the “New Year” text as garbage!

[willow]

Your last plan was to accidentally bump into her on the train. The truth is, it gives off a bit of a “creepy” vibe. When a Cambridge-educated guy is so sophisticated and “refined”, he immediately understands the meaning of such accidental encounters.
The biggest thing, this guy already has a girlfriend! Ask April may have taken this a bit lightly, but I think it was the biggest “red flag”. If the principal was so “heroic” and noble, why was he scanning this girl from top to bottom when he had a girlfriend?
I think you should have joined the Cabin Crew job and enjoyed your new life. If the principal were really interested in you, he would have found you anywhere. When men really like someone, they put their Cambridge degree aside and find a way out. There’s no need to chase them on the train.

[willow]

The mind can sometimes lie and say, “I’m fine,” but the body doesn’t lie. When you run away, you are not really running away from your partner, but from the particular state or feeling that’s occurring at that moment.
Stop treating sex as a task. You should work on non-sexual touch and emotional connection before physical contact so that your nervous system can learn to calm down.
AskApril is absolutely right that stop having sex immediately. Don’t force yourself until you understand what you’re afraid of (pain, a moral burden, or something else).

[willow]

23-year-old guy looking at a 13-year-old girl and saying, “I want to be with her for life.” Doesn’t that feel a bit weird? This isn’t love at first sight, it’s definitely entering red flag territory and you haven’t asked her a single personal question in ten years! This isn’t a relationship; it’s just a long script running in your own head.
The girl calls once a year on her birthday, and you think she’s “true love”! Dude, she’s just showing “good manners,” or maybe she wants to keep him alive on her backup options list.
I think you’re stuck in a worse place than the friend zone, she’s in the memory zone. Ask April was right, that you should find a real girl in your zip code instead of banging your head against that 10-year-old wall.

[willow]

6 years is not a short period of time. If a guy comes so close to your home (Mexico) and doesn’t plan to meet you, it means he is considering you as just an option, not a priority. He wants to enjoy the single life in Mexico, and he thinks that you are not going anywhere; he will meet you whenever he wants.
By the way, ignoring a partner in the name of bachelor adventure is a straight red flag! Instead of crying like Carrie Bradshaw, this guy should be added to his list of “exes”.
And I agree with AskApril that you don’t need to put your trust in the guy (because his actions are already clear); instead, you need to trust yourself regarding what you can and cannot tolerate.
Ask April, I liked your style. You listened to the girl’s long talk carefully and showed her the truth instead of giving her unnecessary consolation. The job of a mentor is to clear up confusion, and that’s what you did.
Excellent guidance as always, April! You are truly the soul of this forum.

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