[Julliana Marie]

Right now, what you did was wrong, so the only thing you can do is apologize and give her assurance that it will never happen again.
It’s somewhat understandable that it happened because you were drunk and you misread the situation. None of us are perfect—even the kindest person in the world makes mistakes. We’re only human. What matters is that we learn from our mistakes so they don’t happen again.
Make her realize that you’re not really that kind of person—you just made a wrong assumption, and because of the alcohol, you ended up doing things you didn’t truly intend to do. You were just impulsive. I’m not saying this is an excuse, but hopefully she can understand where you’re coming from.
Also, add that you will make it up to her and show it through your actions.

[Julliana Marie]

If he only brings pain into your life, it’s better to remove him completely from it. For now, try to stand on your own even if it’s difficult. If there is any legal support available for your child, just make sure to take that, and don’t expect anything else from him.

For your own peace of mind, focus on your life—on how to improve things for yourself and your child.

[Julliana Marie]

My advice is for you to go on dates—invite her out. She might actually be waiting for you to make a move too. The fear she’s feeling needs to be addressed, and you should help her feel comfortable around you so that her fear slowly goes away.

Show her that you are trustworthy and that you won’t hurt her. She can’t stay afraid forever—she also needs to work through that fear. Help her realize that not all people are the same and that not everyone will just end up hurting her.

[Julliana Marie]

Just slow things down for now if that’s what he wants, so he can have time to think things through. He might just be stressed, so it would also be good to understand why his outlook suddenly changed, so you’ll know how to support him.

Try not to pressure him for now, because it might only make the situation worse. At this point, focus on finding ways to support him—especially since he has dealt with depression before.

[Julliana Marie]

You’ve only just started dating, so it’s normal to find out that he might still be talking to other people—especially since you met online. It’s better to stay calm, not overthink things too much, and just give it a chance. Go with the flow, so to speak.

Also, try not to expect too much right away so you don’t get your hopes up and end up getting hurt. If you make plans and they happen, that’s great; if not, that’s okay too. And don’t close yourself off to other people just yet, since there’s no certainty that things will work out with the person you’re currently talking to online.

[Julliana Marie]

I think he is just using you. My advice is to focus on fixing your life for yourself and your children, and then start dating other people and move on from that man. His behavior is also not good, especially when he gets drunk and your children get affected by his anger.

[Julliana Marie]

You need to take a risk and ask her out on a proper date. Show her directly that you like her and that your intentions toward her are good. Let her know that you want things to move toward a deeper and more serious relationship.

Whatever the outcome may be, you have to be ready for it because that’s something you can’t control anymore—it depends on her and how she feels. But if you don’t take the risk, you’ll never know whether she likes you back or not.

[Julliana Marie]

It seems like both of you are no longer happy with each other and are just forcing yourselves to stay together, especially because you have a child. What do you actually want to happen so we can give you advice that might help you?

[Julliana Marie]

That’s normal—dating can be like that sometimes. It’s better to just move on. Maybe you’re not really her type, and she only sees you as a friend. It could also be because you were there to comfort her, but that doesn’t mean she’s obligated to commit to you.

[Julliana Marie]

Deleting him from Facebook was a good decision—it will help you forget him and move on more easily. It’s hard to move on if you keep checking his profile all the time; it can turn into an unhealthy obsession.
Try to meet other people—there are still many you’ll get to know. Maybe he met someone else, which is why he lost interest in you, so you can do the same to help yourself move on faster.
Also, try to keep yourself busy or go out with your friends so you can stay distracted and feel better.

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