[Avery Yvonne]

It’s really wrong to get involved in other people’s problems. Now everyone just feels betrayed and like their friendships have been ruined—your relationship with Jim, and Jim’s friendship with Fred.
So the lesson learned here is not to interfere in other people’s issues; it’s okay to give advice, but that should be the limit.
For now, just give yourselves time to think things through. Hopefully, things can still be fixed.

[Avery Yvonne]

For now, just move on. Focus on yourselves first and try to figure out what you really want, so the same issues that caused your breakup don’t happen again. Focus on your own lives for now, and if you are truly meant for each other, the universe will find a way to bring you back together again.

[Avery Yvonne]

It’s time for you to move on. He’s not consistent, and he doesn’t even take you out on proper formal dates. Your father is only concerned about you—that’s normal for parents, especially since you’re a girl.
Instead of getting angry, he should have shown that he deserves you, but your boyfriend didn’t do anything like that. So my advice is to just move on.

[Avery Yvonne]

Have you tried talking to him about the behaviors you don’t like? Did he make any effort to adjust? If not, then there’s no point in continuing the relationship, because the same cycle will just keep happening—you’ll keep breaking up again and again since you’re not actually resolving the issues you keep having.

[Avery Yvonne]

If you follow your feelings, you need to talk to your friend so you don’t end up going behind her back. And maybe it’s best to wait for now until things settle down and she has at least somewhat moved on.

That’s what you should do for now, then observe how the situation develops before making any further moves.

[Avery Yvonne]

If you really want to fix things, start by making time for the two of you. Go back to the things you used to do when you were just starting out and when you were deeply in love with each other.
That’s just how relationships are, especially when you’ve been together for a long time—you don’t always feel that “in love” spark every single day. But to me, that’s a choice. It’s not because the spark is gone, but because it’s what we choose to believe and invest in.

[Avery Yvonne]

First of all, you should stop giving him professional massages. You can tell him that you like him too much, which is why you can no longer keep it professional.
Now, if he really likes you, he should start asking you out on dates. Make it clear and ask whether it’s a date or not so you can better understand his true intentions toward you. Because if it’s not a date, then don’t waste your time accepting his invitations.

[Avery Yvonne]

There’s nothing wrong with taking a risk and trying to see if the two of you will work out. You won’t really know unless you try. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes—those are part of any relationship.

The only issue is that you are still married. You should take care of your divorce first so you don’t hurt anyone else and so that your relationship can have a clean and healthy foundation moving forward.

[Avery Yvonne]

That’s a really difficult and toxic kind of in-law situation—your mother-in-law is enabling his behavior instead of helping resolve the issues between you two.
My advice is to follow through on your ultimatum. If that behavior happens again, you should seriously consider leaving him. A marriage should be between the two of you solving your problems together, not involving parents in a way that escalates the conflict.
You need to set a clear boundary that your issues as a couple should stay between you and your husband, and not be influenced or worsened by his mother. If nothing changes, walking away may be the healthiest option for you.

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