[David]

It’s a difficult situation you’re in, but if you choose to stay with him for yourself and for your child, you need to be patient and endure it. However, there is also a risk that he might take advantage of your patience.
Try to approach it through a calm and proper conversation. Ask him if there is anything you are lacking or if there is something you are not doing right as his girlfriend. Also, remind him that you have a 5-month-old child together and that your focus should be on your family instead of him flirting with other women.
He needs to understand that he is not single and cannot just do whatever he wants.

[David]

You said it yourself—you don’t want to be with someone who can’t even make time to talk to you once a day. So you already know the answer to what you should do.
If you’re constantly having to beg for his time and attention, that’s not the kind of relationship you deserve. A relationship should involve effort from both people, not just one.
If he’s being cold and distant, then maybe it’s time to let him go. Someone who truly wants to be with you will make at least some time for you, even during a busy period.
I know you love him, but love alone isn’t always enough when your emotional needs are being ignored. There are plenty of people out there who would genuinely appreciate your time, effort, and affection.
If he continues to show you that you’re not a priority in his life, it may be healthier to move on and find someone who values you and the relationship as much as you do.

[David]

Since he’s your boyfriend, you’re probably the person who understands him best. After all, that’s his brother showing up unexpectedly. It’s understandable that he might feel uncomfortable turning his brother away just because the two of you had plans, especially if his brother is already there.
The difference is that your plans together can usually be rescheduled. It may help to be a little more understanding of the situation so it doesn’t turn into an argument between you two.
That said, it’s also reasonable for you to feel disappointed if this has been happening repeatedly. A healthy relationship involves both understanding each other’s circumstances and making an effort to prioritize time together. It might be worth having another calm conversation about finding a better balance so neither of you feels neglected.

[David]

You can greet him since you are classmates anyway. But maybe keep it at that for now, because it seems like he might not be interested in you in that way.
It might be better to just ignore him for the moment. Who knows—sometimes when you give someone space, even if you’re just friends, it can turn into romantic feelings. He might even start to miss your presence unexpectedly.

[David]

You could just ask the shy guy if he has feelings for you. If he says yes, then that’s good—you can tell him the feeling is mutual and you can try to see if it works between you two.
It’s really not possible to be involved with both of them, so you will need to choose one way or another, even if someone gets hurt. As they say, may the best man win.

[David]

It feels like he’s only after sex and isn’t really ready to commit. He doesn’t want to enter a serious relationship. It’s also possible that he didn’t like the idea of only having sex once feelings became deeper between you two, which may have contributed to him breaking things off. And then he went and slept with another woman right away—so clearly, it seems like that’s mostly what he’s after.
So my advice is to distance yourself from him completely. Remove him from your life for now if you don’t want to end up feeling miserable.

[David]

I think she is trying to make things work between you two, but the problem is she has a lot going on in her life right now.
It’s up to you whether you want to give her space first so she can sort out her problems and become fully committed later on, or if you want to stay with her, support her, and be there for her through what she is going through right now, especially since she is dealing with so many challenges.

[David]

For me, regardless of whether it’s before or after you have sex, you really need to tell him. You both have to be responsible for your actions.

But to be more specific, it would be much better if you tell him in person. So I would suggest that you tell him when you go to see him.

[David]

That’s right—you should prioritize your career. Honestly, everything your partner said makes sense. Whatever happens, you won’t have regrets or someone to blame. If it doesn’t work out, then that’s just how things go, but if it does, then it’s even better because both of your careers and lives can improve.
It’s also true that it wouldn’t be good for you to stay in Greece just because of him, since you might end up resenting him later if things don’t go the way you planned.
For now, just trust yourself and the foundation you’ve built in your relationship.

[David]

Just approach her. It’s actually easy because you’re a customer at her workplace. Try to make yourself noticeable a bit so you can get her attention, then talk to her naturally.

You can try asking for her number if she’s comfortable giving it to you. If she agrees, that’s a good start. From there, you’ll have more chances to get to know her better, and you might even be able to ask her out sometime.

[Member]

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