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All I know is that he moved back to his Mom’s house last year when his Dad past away and he basically is her sole caregiver.

He did recently though get a home health aide to come in during the day so he could go to work without worrying about his Mom as much.

So I wouldn’t see much of him during the day anyway. It’s the evening hours that are scarce.

I’ve gone from seeing him quite frequently to maybe once a week or maybe once every other week.

I don’t want what we have to fall apart but it’s hard. I have seen so many other relationships fall apart from similar situations.

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We are both in our 40’s.

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The same GF i mentioned in my earlier message had said that she had very close friend of hers go through something very similar some time back.

She told me that this woman at the time sent the man she was involved with an email something to the effect of this:

This is my last email to you only because it appears as though you have no intention of coming to see me.

If there comes a time where you change your mind, you know how to reach me.

She told me that the man’s response was this”

Ok……I understand……

and she even told me that she told her friend that he had interpreted what she ahd said as her wanting to break things off with him…which it clearly doesn’t say.

But she told me that all this man was doing was trying to manipulate her friend as to get a reaction from her…one that may have said that this wasn’t the case etc…. that i do want to see you etc…

Almost as if he wanted to lay a guilt trip on this woman.
But

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You mention “self deprecate”? Doesn’t that mean to belittle or put oneself down/undervaluing oneself?

Are you saying that this guys feels so low about himself that he believes that he doesn’t deserve someone good and only deserves the same type of woman(one that undervalues herself)?

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I appreciate your response and yes it is time to move on,

My Gf had told me that I’m not the only one he’s doing this with and that she feels sorry for either a wife or live in Gf that he might have as to part of the reason he can only come “now and then”.

She said that what will happen is whoever is “involved” with this man will eventually get tired of his BS(including the wife or Gf unless they are stupid and desperate)and leave him.

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We have been sleeping together all this time. He says he’s happy with what we have and at the same time says confused. What he’s confused about who knows. Possibly his feelings towards me? I know that in the past he has been hurt very deeply from the last relationship he had. As far as our ages go let’s just say we are both well over the age of 21.

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he was calling himself stupid. not the questions or me.

i guess in a way he is stupid for actully knowing what you have and not wabt to do anything about it

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Thank you for your answer. I appreciate your advice.

My thing is even though he did what he did I know that there will be a day when he decides to look me up again.

Why do people do this kind of horrible stuff and then try to go back to the same person they did it to?

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