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Thank you april, what u said is really useful & im totally convinced even though i know its gonna be hard & tuff to live with this situation… what hurt the most trying to analyze the situation, & thinking that maybe he’s doing it on purpose, my ego is not letting me go without knowing what i did to deserve such an end…

anyway i learned a lot & for sure i’ll do better choices in the future…. but what im sad for is my broken relationship with my sister that i dont think will ever be fixed, he’s out of my life but i cant end my relationship with my sister she will always be present… & i cant see her without having these thoughts of her lying & doing things behind my back…sisters dont do such things to each other 🙁 …

& yes, This discord with my sister is keeping the relationship with my ex alive in my mind, if this never happened maybe i was moving on right now, i’ll try to stop controlling things & just let it go, & it’s true [u]“Stop talking to her about your ex and stop asking her to do things you already know she won’t do” [/u] thank you for considering, i didn’t actually realize that

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he sent me messages on sunday, & yesterday he talked to me on msn sending me songs to listen to, they all describes the pain of loosing someone you love we didn’t actually talk a lot…but i dont know what to do.. im trying to sound serious all the time so he will not be once again close enough to hurt me.. at the same time i feel gd that he talked to me so im not feeling that i totally lost my dignity. but still confused what to do.

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okkkkk this week when we were out he gave me a nice gift without any occasion, the 2 last times i saw him he act differently, i dont know what happened but i like the fact that we have fun when we are together and we laugh all the time, he seems interested about what i have to say not like before & i can notice changes

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It’s been a month till i took the decision that i should put some boundaries to my relationship with the person already mention in the previous posts…
In this month i stopped doing any moves so i didn’t call, text or even chat on msn & Facebook… He text me each weekend to do something or to just have a little chat. he asked me out & i said i have a dinner.
The thing is, we are not talking anymore..all i know that on weekends i receive a text message from him.

I want to know is it wrong to talk openly & honestly with him about the situation of our relationship without being the one that takes all the moves.I think if we talk & get everything clear so we can easily move on.
I dont want to lose him as a friend at the same time we are not friends, i don’t know what we are actually.. i want to label this relationship. But i’m afraid to be misjudged or misunderstood by this person because he was supportive & helped me in a difficult period of my life & i appreciate him.

I don’t know maybe i didn’t get his signals right, maybe we are just friends & i’m making things bigger in my head… all i want to know, in what kind of relationship am i? to act accordingly. Thank you 🙂

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😀 yeah i know this is very true…i wanted an extra confirmation to take the right decision
Because i think that i needed this guy too much to forget another one…because lately i’m trying to get over a relationship that lasted 4 years.. so i tried to fix this relationship and do the moves i guess i’m just avoiding to be lonely.
thank you a lot for your help 😐

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thank you a lot for ur answer,
i think i’m starting to have some feelings to him, what should i do if he asked me out or call?
should i treat him as a friend? but i honestly do not believe in friendship with a guy in this case. or should i stop gradually giving him importance?
& i have a curious question, if he don’t want me as a girlfriend why he is always starting a conversation & he ask me to go out? am i just a friend?

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