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I was dating a guy for 8 months & we were in a real relationship for 5 months, we were so closed & best friends & we spend a lot of good times.. he always mentioned that he’s afraid we cannot continue this because he didn’t finish his education & our parents know each other & I already entered once at his place & met his mother so he’s afraid that things are going too serious & he is not ready yet for such a step. On new years eve he said that we should stop seeing each other, it was also his birthday so on the first of January I went to his apartment where he lives alone (it was a really a stormy night) I left red roses on his door so the next day he woke up & see them so he will not feel left alone on his birthday.. I waited half day for a thank you message but he didn’t send anything so I sent a message saying hey there’s a thing on your door hope u enjoy it, it was one of the things I wanted to do on your birthday. & Also he didn’t reply so I got mad & I sent a very childish message saying that I’m disappointed of his behavior & that I really feel stupid.. & once again he didn’t reply so I sent a third message saying that I’m sorry I was so angry & I want to meet him, he replied that he felt so humiliated & I should stop talking to him. So I drove to his apartment & I asked him to go out he said that he was on his parent’s house & he’s so busy. So I went there & called him & we sit there without saying anything for about an hour then I left.
After a few days, I had a car problem near his house so I called him & he came in & helped me. Again we talked through msn after a week & we had a fight.. like usual it ends with the decision that we shouldn’t talk anymore. I removed him from my facebook, phone, msn …
After a month & a half I called him & we talked for 2 mins about everything in general, yesterday I missed called him & said that it was by mistake so we texted in this subject.
Ok I know that I did soooo many mistakes & I did lost my dignity & I did lost control of the situation & I feel sad about it, but I really cant stop it, I feel I cant handle this break up, & I cant handle this pain.. I need him to respond to many questions I have & I feel that this person mean a lot to me & I cant get over him 🙁
What can I do now? I feel I lost the one I love & I lost my dignity & its so bad

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

The way to get your dignity back is to stop giving it away. 😳 If someone tells you that they don’t want to date you, [b]then don’t chase them[/b]. It’s really that simple. 😉

Stop calling, texting, showing up at his house, and giving him flowers. Let the man be the one to make the first move — and if he doesn’t, then don’t you do it. Instead, find someone who’s interested in you enough to chase you! 😉 I know you want certain behavior and emotions from him — but he doesn’t want to give them to you, and the more you try to control the situation, the more of your dignity you’ll lose — as well as the guy! 😮

You’ll get a lot of information that will help you by reading Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and KEEP Mr. Right! 🙂 You can download the book automatically at this link for only $8.99. Read it. It will help you enormously.

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he sent me messages on sunday, & yesterday he talked to me on msn sending me songs to listen to, they all describes the pain of loosing someone you love we didn’t actually talk a lot…but i dont know what to do.. im trying to sound serious all the time so he will not be once again close enough to hurt me.. at the same time i feel gd that he talked to me so im not feeling that i totally lost my dignity. but still confused what to do.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Decide what you want in your life. 🙂 If you want a relationship, decide what type. If you want a committed, monogamous relationship that will lead to marriage, kids, living together — whatever combo and order you want — then focus on that goal.

This guy made it clear he isn’t interested in anything serious and that’s why he broke up with you, after dating for between five and eight months. You said in your first post that you need him to respond to many questions — now is the time for you to consider what those questions are and if you know the answers, or you really need him to spell things out for you. Before you get involved again, make sure that this is really what you want, and understand what it is that he’s willing to give you at this time.

It’s important your eyes are wide open and you’re clear on what YOU want and on what HE wants. Compatibility is your friend. 😉

I hope this helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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