[sawhme]

any takes on what these kind of dreams would mean?

[sawhme]

Let’s hope so! It’s funny because in the beginning we were talking about how great we got along with eachother and how similar our personalities were, but then we pointed out that with time, we will both discover things we don’t like about eachother. Of course, time has gone by and we definitley found some unlikable things. So I understand we’re not perfect, nobody is. These differences between us may cause confusion, sadness, anger, stress, and frusration but eventually we should learn to accept them and try to work around those differences by compromising. Thanks for your help!

[sawhme]

Alright well I’m just going to keep dealing with the now and just take life day by day. I guess if we both work together and be able to adjust to each other’s lives than things will go smoothly. It doesn’t make it any easier when all my friends and his close friends around us are all in 2-3+ yrs relationships, some of them even engaged. It puts a lot of pressure on us but I think we can meet and even exceed the standard those friends have set 🙂 Thank you for all your help, I’m sure this won’t be the last issue I come to you for advice on though!

[sawhme]

Well I guess what im hoping for here is a fairytale relationship aren’t I? I guess speaking in terms of how things are going now with the both of us, yes I do and WE do see this lasting up to marriage. However, speaking realistically, things could happen, one thing could lead to another, and we may not end up being together (he would be so mad if he knew I thought about this as a possibility). I remember speaking with him when we first started dating about how a relationship can last forever. We both agreed that as long as we had communication, honesty, loyalty, unconditional love, understanding, and just enjoy each other we would stay together. I guess I’ll never know the real formula to a lasting relationship unless we practice these values and more 😕 What are your takes on a healthy, long-lasting relationship? How can we keep our fairytale dream alive?

I’m hoping it won’t be such a big deal for me in the future, obviously it’s a big deal now because I just recenty lost it. I’m hoping it’ll be the least of my worries and we can be together and move on without me being paranoid about it too often.

[sawhme]

Yeah I do laugh at it sometimes, but most of the times when I don’t get his jokes I am left confused. I realized it’s the way his tone of voice is that makes me misunderstand his jokes. It’s weird because I can get other people’s jokes and his are just so ‘serious’ sounding. I also often laugh at his inability to get his jokes across to me, because yes we do in fact have VERY different senses of humour, and I don’t see why he laughs or finds certain things funny that I would find simply annoying.

[sawhme]

Sorry I’m not sure I understand what you were explaining in the first two paragraphs. I mentioned I was a virgin when I met him and he was my first, the other one’s I had I never went that far with. Yeah its hard to wrap my mind around because I want to be with this man forever, which includes marriage; my first and only lover.

Also, he had different values than I did BEFORE he met me, this was also when he was very young. When we met he was much older and had already changed his values and beliefs on sex before he met me. Which is why when we did it for the first time it was meaningful and full off love and committment, whereas, the past girls he was with were only for short-term fun. I mean to even be reminded of those little things he did like kissing her, caressing her, putting his penis in her and thrusting away, ugh it bothers me soo much 🙁 😥

Yes for the most part im past it but whem im reminded, im reminded and there’s nothing to stop it.

[sawhme]

Yeah well i’m very bad at telling when he jokes around which caused me like a whole day of sadness. Thanks for helping though 🙂

[sawhme]

I’m no expert at this but have you tried getting her to anticipate coming home to a hot night? or maybe setting up the mood with candles, and maybe a hot bath? There could also be many reason why she might be losing her sex drive.

If you have a feeling she might not be enjoying your going down on her, and you think you’re doing something wrong, go online! There are so many tips and tricks on how to do it right that any man could follow.

[sawhme]

Well I think I am very understanding and very mature about it. And I have given him lots of space too. We always work through our differences and that why I know we’re gonna last for a very long time. We spoke last night and apparently I misunderstood him because he didn’t mean it when he said he didn’t wanna see me or want me to call. Apparently he was JOKING. We both have problems with telling when the other is joking or not..I don’t know that’s just how our personalities are. So he pretty much said that he does want to talk to me everyday and he does want to see me at least once a week. I had an issue with everytime I would go over he would ignore me and do his hmk even though he agreed to spend time with me. I’m not trying to change him, and im very proud of what he’s doing because im comparison to his friends, he will be the most successful in life. There’s no way I’m going to consder breaking up with him because this isn’t a big probem for us. A bug problem would be him cheating or lying to me. We have a really strong bond and we tell eachother everything as best friends would. I might not be the strongest woman to handle, but you’re right, it’s not my fault im like this, its just who I am, its part of my personality. But he says he’s willing to accept me for that and I am willing to put up with these long hours of separation. | don’t want anyone thinking im selfish because I do give him all the time in the world but I have to admit he does have really bad time management and organization skills which also cuts into our together time. I know everything will work out though, things always do.

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