[El Steveo]

April need your read on this I tend to spend way too much time over analyzing things and it drives me mad.

So we/I have taken some of your great advice and have allowed things to be scaled back to just dating and see what happens, now I know you suggested we not involve the kids in our dates but 2 things here her daughter as I explained has some ADHD, ODD issues which also have attached to them an attachment issue so taking away my kids and myself from her would only really affect her and same with my kids to a much lesser extent of course but they have built up a relationship with this woman I am seeing and her daughter so I have to let the kids be involved in some of our dates at minimum. Anyhow we went on a family date this weekend we went bowling and had an awesome time, the woman I am seeing was VERY affectionate to me and like wise me to her things went really great. We went back to her place after bowling and my son and her daughter played while we spent some time together. She invited me back to her place after she put her daughter to bed. We watched a bit of TV and ended up going to bed together. After all was said and done she says to me I hope I’m not complicating things here. To which I responded I don’t understand what you mean when you say things like that it almost sounds like you have made up your mind where things are heading. Her response was I don’t know what to say. We fell aslepp together for a few hours I ended up leaving about midnight we had a great goodbye kiss and said we would see/talk to each other later this week.
I guess my question to you is first of all am I over analyzing things and should just let things happen because maybe she really is confused/scared? Or what would your read be on this latest development?
Look forward to your response!

[El Steveo]

As a side not to the post I just put up. Another thing she says is she is very confused because she wants her freedom and space but doesnt want to lose me.

[El Steveo]

Ok April here’s an update that I need your help with.

So this weekend we discussed things and Friday I over reacted to somethings that happened and ended up breaking things off which as I know now it was a huge mistake because I was reading into things. Saturday I obviuosly was in complete heartbreak mode but I did not call her, she sent me a few messages to which i responded. Sunday I went to her place as part of a planned visit to take some more of my belongings we made arrangements to make sure her daughter wasnt there so we could discuss things. I said all I wanted to say which in a nut shell was that I wanted us to stay together and that I cared alot for her. She feels the same but what she keeps saying is she needs to slow things down, she wants us to continue seeing each other just not as much as previous (which is understandable hence the reason for slowing things down) but her next response is the one that confused me, she says she doesnt want a boyfriend now and afraid that she may never be able to give me what I want which is eventually to be married/long term and she’s afraid she maybe waste my time if we hang on. She still sends me messages text and FB and calls me. One message she sent me was I helped her figure something out and she sent me a message back thanks for your help Ill take you out for dinner this Saturday to repay you. To which I responded “For sure we can go out this Saturday but don’t be silly about the payback” and she sent “I’m kind of being flirty no?”.

I am confused how to proceed from here I obviously want in the end to be with her as we were but mixed messages are messing with me.

[El Steveo]

Thanks good advice as always!

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