Be an equal opportunity dater and don’t worry about what other people are doing. There are good men and bad men in every country in the world. And the same is true of women.
The important thing for you to remember is not to become bitter because you think the men who might choose you are out looking for foreigners. There just aren’t enough studies in the world that are current and comprehensive to answer the one question: Where’s the guy who’s right for you?
The more you know yourself, and what you truly have to offer, and what you’re truly not willing to do, the better equipped you are to “market” yourself to men who want the kind of woman you are. I know that may sound crass if you haven’t read my books, but there are so many opportunities to meet men today — both in person and in cyberspace — that it’s important to sell yourself correctly. If you advertise yourself in a phone call or an email message as someone who is fun loving and easy going, when the reality is you’re a hard driving, workaholic litigator, of course the guy on the other end of your message is going to reject you. He was waiting to date the woman he thought was fun loving and easy going. Same goes for the workaholic politician who is looking for a trophy wife with a fascinating career, but ends up with the woman who’s dating profile said, Serious Susan, but shows up with a purple streak in her hair, and tattoos on most of her skin driving a Harley and having just quit her sixth job in four weeks.
If you can zone in on what you’re offering, and what you want in a man — and it shouldn’t just be someone with a sense of humor (too vague) — you’re more likely to find Mr. Right. So be a little more discriminating about the specifics of who you are and what you want, and I guarantee you’ll stop thinking about American men scooping up foreigner women instead of you and start thinking about what kind of man is the right one for you, regardless of nationality.
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