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September 3, 2009 at 4:10 pm #1117
princessskater
ParticipantThere is this guy and i have never like another guy like this. He is a family friend. I have asked him out twice n both times he has said no. I really like him tho n it realy hurt me when he said no. Sinse i asked him out it has been realy awquard to speak to him. he ignores me and tries to avoid me. Its realy weird tho because everywhere i go i see him ! literally ! i always see him and when i am with my friends too, they seem to think its funny to call his name tho so he turns around n sees me so i think he might think i am stalking him. I know that he is the one for me, i love everything about him. But when my friend told him i fancied him he smiled n he doesnt like to look at me is this a sign or just me ? i realy need help i see him often n i know that i am in love with him. Please help me ?? x September 4, 2009 at 12:21 pm #9897optimistvik
ParticipantI think you should not talk to him now coz this is a one side love or infatuation so better don’t waste your time & find someone who is really made for you. September 4, 2009 at 9:39 pm #9908Anonymous
ParticipantHi Please help me,
I know it hurts to really have strong feeling for someone and not have it back in return, we all have experienced this at one time or another in this life time. The thing is this is part of life and we need to learn the best way to deal with those feeling. You have expressed to him your liking for him, and your friends have told him. He may just be flattered and thats why he smiles ,but for one reason or another he is not responding to you the way you wish. I would not persue this with him any longer. Just because he may not feel the same way does not mean you are not a likeable loveable person. He may feel awkward because you are a family friend or who really knows , but the answer is he is not responding so you need to relax take a deep breath when you see him and just say hi, how are you, be a friend as you have in the past and if it really gets awkward maybe you need to tell him that although you like him and have expressed it as more than a friend you like him you do not want him to feel awkward and you understand the feeling is not mutual and since you seem to be in the same circle of friends or running into eachother frequently you do not want it to affect your friendship. Be mature about it and accept that not everyone is going to like us the same as we may like them and that is ok and you will be ok. You will find someone that will return to you what you deserve. Sometime it is also just infactuation , we day dream of what it would be like and in fact your fantasy of what might or could be is far from what things could be if you were a pair. Being friends and dating and developing a romance and serious relationship is a long way and very different from and infactuation.
Good Luck in your search for Mr. Right.September 4, 2009 at 10:20 pm #9837April Masini
KeymasterWhy do you want someone who doesn’t want you? When someone rejects you they’re really doing you a big favor. They’re letting you know where you stand so that you can move on, not waste time, and start looking for men who want to be with you and are possibly your Mr. Right. So don’t worry about the rejection, but do pay attention to it. If someone tells you no, and you ignore it, they have every right to think you’re creeping around after them. So quit it. I’m sure you don’t want to be perceived as a stalker.
What might really help you is understanding that men want to be the ones who pursue women. When you start doing the asking out, you take that opportunity away from them. What they really want is to chase you and win you. If you can understand that and accept it, you’ll know that flirting is great, and making yourself attractive and alluring is even better, but asking a man out isn’t.
Check out my book, Think & Date Like A Man, for more advice like this. You can click on the Dating Advice Books link above, and scroll down until you see the book and order it online.
September 5, 2009 at 2:34 pm #9962Smokey
ParticipantYou’ve tried and he’s not interested – his loss! That’s how i would look at it.
Stop dwelling and over-thinking about the situation because it’s only gonna make you sad. Find someone else. . .[size=85]“Fall seven times, Stand up eight”[/size] September 5, 2009 at 6:33 pm #9579Participantthankyou for your advice 🙂 sinse u gave me the advice a new man came on the scene verryy quickly and you were right i shouldnt keep asking him out if he is going to say no, i didnt realy think about it.But now im happy n i can finally work on getting over him n try and build on this new relationship. Have u got any tips on getting over the last one please just incase ?😆 thankyouu xSeptember 5, 2009 at 10:16 pm #9918KeymasterI’m very happy for you! My best advice now is for you to buy my book, Think & Date Like A Man. It’s only $15, and you can order it online (Barnes and Noble no longer carries it.) by clicking on the Dating Advice Books link at the top of the page, scrolling down to Think & Date LIke A Man, and ordering it right there online.
The book will help you figure out what you want in a relationship and a man, how to be the woman that gets that man, and how to know if a guy is into you because of how he behaves. It will definitely help you through this new relationship. If you read a chapter a week, and mull it over, you’ll be in great shape for a great, romantic relationship — which it sounds like you’re starting now.
Good luck!
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