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Dear April

me and my gf have beein together for 11 months and we list our virginites to each other. i am very insecure and im always cheacking her things and trying to piece things toegther. i have had a gut feeling that she has been cheating on me with a guy names john at school. we go to different schools and she has two classes with him. he always used to text her and she admitted to being good friends with him. i always imagine them sitting in class giggling and flirting and laughing together. i have and have had a really bad feeling about them. i forcered he to stop all connections with him and for her to ignore him at school. and shes had really no problem with it. but i just have a bad gut feeling that all year in those two classes they were flirting and getting interested in each other. which i consider cheating. her bestfriend told me that he liked her all year not knowing it was me talking to her. he an okay looking guy whos good at sports so its a little imtimidating but at the same time i am extremly good looking and am pretty well myself with baseball 🙂 ive checked al her facebook and myspace messages and comments and wall posts and i cant find anything juicy. she deletes everything in her inbox and sent folders. ive found some comments from her to him such as “johnnnn 🙂“. that makes everything easier to believe that shes cheating or cheated on me with him. she swears she never liked him nor had any interest in him. but somehow i just dont believe her. shes lied before about other little things. which makes me thing shes a liar. she doesnt talk to him anymore because i made her ignore the crap out of him. i really need help with this one. im really worried 🙁 she means everything to me and i need to know what to do. can you please help me? ill give you any more information you think you may need to assess my situatution. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME DECENT ADVICE! 🙁 thank you.

[Ask April Masini]

You have two problems. The first is that I see nothing that indicates that your girlfriend is cheating on you. That said, I have a completely different definition of cheating than you do. I don’t agree with you that flirting and befriending a guy in high school or college means she’s cheating on you. I think if she goes on a date with him or kisses him, then she’s cheated on you, but so far, she’s done nothing but be loyal.

That said, you mentioned that you think she’s a liar, and it’s impossible to be in a relationship with someone you believe to be a liar. It means there is NEVER any trust between the two of you, and trust is the cornerstone of a relationship.

So if she’s what you say she is, then she’s not Ms. Right for you because you’ll never trust her. 😳 I’m sorry that that’s disappointing news, no doubt, but I hope it helps.

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