I wish I knew what previous posts you were referring to. 🙁 For future, please continue any new developments about old posts directly onto those old posts, so I can read the chronology of your question — and so can all the other readers! I receive and respond to so many readers’ relationship questions that if you want me to refer to the history of your relationship, you’ve got to help me out by using the old post with your new question! 🙂
But for now, I’ll do my best to answer the question on it’s own, as posted here, so this is my advice:
It sounds like your boyfriend is trying to reunite after a break up with you, and you’re not sure you want to go back to the way things were, minus the living together. Given your feelings, I think the best thing is that rather than try and rewind time, to start from this moment forward.
Given what you know about this guy from having dated him already, is he someone who could be Mr. Right? What else do you need to know about him to make this determination?
If he is someone who could possibly be “the one” and you’re interested in pursuing that question, then if he asks you out, and you want to go, have a great time! But if he’s not going to be Mr. Right because of what you’ve learned about him from the dating you’ve already had with him, and the break up, then there’s no sense wasting your time or his.
If all he’s doing is trying to incorporate you back into his life so he has a girlfriend who may or may not be Ms. Right, but he’s not really interested in a commitment so it doesn’t really matter if you’re Ms. Right, as long as you’re good enough for right now, and you have other goals in mind for yourself, then you’re not compatible.
So the answer to your question really lies in whether this guy is a possible Mr. Right or not, based on what you’ve learned. You’ve gained your freedom back since what appears to be a break up, so don’t give it up to Mr. Right Now this time around.
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